Advice: How do I decline being a Godmother
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|Tue, 07-26-2011 - 8:42pm|
Okay, I just found out a family friend is pregnant. She constantly made comments over the years about me baptising her child when she wasn't even pregnant. I told her I don't want to baptise another kid. I have 3 god children. I'm 25 and all 3 were baptised when I was a teen. I was forced into it by my parents. I genuinely had no real knowledge of the responsibility of being a GOOD godmother.
I'm fresh out of university, haven't found a job and live at home. I can't afford a baptism. That's the godmothers job in my religion, we are talking $3,000 or more for the baptism alone. AS WELL, annually Easter, Christmas & the childs birthday. If she was logical she wouldn't ask me. She should ask a married couple. She never takes no for an answer. I've already told her I'm a "bad godmother" because I don't see the god children I have because they are far away & I had a huge falling out with one of the mother's.
She is not a real friend, she calls to talk about herself. I never ask her for advice, I rarely call her because she annoys me. She got married at 21 and her life revolves around her husband. She won't go anywhere without him, how can I be close with someone who always has their husband around? Her mom & my mom are amazing friends. So I bite my tounge and deal with her many many annoying habits. She cries alot over anything & gets offended easily.
There is a big dinner party this weekend to celebrate her pregnancy news. I'm happy for her, but I don't want the responsibility. I don't have the money & I don't want to invest the time either because I find her so annoying. And a child deserves a good godmother.
I can't say yes if she asks me. I can see her asking me it at a table of ten people and putting me in a bad spot. I know she'll get very offended but how can I lessen the impact?