Advice - legal guardianship/child
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|Wed, 05-21-2003 - 11:59am|
BACKGROUND: "Ls" parents divorced years ago and her mother took her to another state (6 hours away). Her father continues to live near my husband and I. The mother voluntarily gave up custody of her son before she moved. Since "L" moved, she has been in and out of several schools as her mother has hopped from one job to another, from living with one man to another. About 6 months ago, "L"s mother had gotten such a low-paying job and couldn't afford anything more than a one-room apartment and asked "L"s friends to take her "until she gets things settled". Well, that family took her, but, is now frustrated because the mom won't take her back. She keeps making up excuses as to why she cannot get her daughter.
CURRENT: "L" phoned me saying the family she was staying with was moving and she couldn't stay with them any longer. "L" went on to tell me her mother could not afford her and didn't have room for her. My husband and I have talked with her biological father. The biological father also refuses to take her for the same reasons.
So....here we are. Nobody wants this girl. She is about to become a teenager and has had a very poor upbringing. My husband and I have agreed if nobody wants her, we will take her in. Of course, there will be struggles.
If anyone has any advice or websites I can turn to for information on obtaining legal guardianship and what kinds of problems can happen when "adopting" a teenager, please forward it along to me. Thanks!
BTW - my mother seems to think she would be more of a problem than it is worth, and that she would be better off in foster care (I have two children ages 12 and 8 - and don't plan on having anymore either!!).