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|Sun, 10-05-2003 - 4:26pm|
I am new to this board, and would like some advice. I am 20 years old, and currently living at home with my parents and younger brother.
Over the last few years we have had some problems, I won't bore you with the details, but me and my brother were both bullied at school for being shy. I left school with good grades, but as I was unsure of what I wanted to do, I went to college for a while and got in with a bad crowd. But I'm not a bad kid, and I pulled myself together and found a job.
I have worked there for just over 2 years and have worked very hard to get where I am. I have gained confidence and experience. I absolutely loved it! However, around 2 months ago we got a new manager, and in turn one of my colleagues was promoted to our supervisor. Since then I have not enjoyed working there. She constantly criticizes my work, and I can feel her chipping away at my hard earned confidence. I used to regard her as a friend. Not any longer. It’s amazing what giving someone power can do.
There is another problem that I face. We have never had much money, but I am earning a decent wage. My parents seem to want to make me feel bad about this, for example “Oh, I don’t have any money for you, ask Angela. Or shall we go out tonight for a meal, Angela will pay”. I help them out where I can, but I am hoping to save to go travelling (a silly ‘dream’ I have had for a while). When I’m with my mother she will go on and on about my Dad, and then when I am with my Dad, he will go on about my mother, and say how he wants to leave her and get a divorce. I tell them not to say them things, but they still do. I feel like I am stuck in the middle.
My mother thinks I am close to burnout, as I work long hours. I am often tiered and irritable, and have trouble sleeping. My mother says I should see a counsellor, little does she realise she is causing some of the problems!
Any advice you could give me would be gratefully appreciated, as I don’t have many friends and I don’t feel I can talk to them. I used to look forward to going to work to get away from home life, but now I don’t enjoy going there either!
I’m sorry for rambling on!