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|Sat, 08-02-2003 - 12:15pm|
well it all starts off 3 years ago when i introduced my daughter (who is a very smart and intelligent young lady) to a young man. i raised my daughter to feel comfortable around me. she always came to me when she was having problems or not. we are best friends. she was 16 at the time and still in high school with a very good academic record and she pursued an education with something in the medical field namely she wanted to become a nurse practioner. the guy i introduced her to was 23 at the time. he came from a very rescetable family and he also persued the same career choice as my daughter.
i thought he would be perfect for my daughter despite the age differnce. he has positive goals in life and leads a very respectable life. i got to know the family very well and as time passed i thought my daughter should meet him. it started off first when he was more like a role model to her but as time passed the two of them started liking each other. becuase of my wishes i only allowed her to speak to him on the phone and he may come over to our house only when me or my husband is home. the two of them respected my wishes and never disobeyed me.
they have talked about a future together after she finishes school. she has spoken to me and husband. like every parent i want the best for my child. presently my daughter is in college she is 19 and her boyfriend is 26. he is now finished with college and is a nurse practioner. he has intentions of one day marrying my daughter and starting a family. they havent done anything wrong that i could say my trust is broken becuase i know both of their intentions.
with my conversations that i have with my daughter she tells me that he respects and loves her a lot. he also respects me and my family and he gets along very well. he is almost like a son that would help us without hesitation.
recently, when he came over to my house for dinner he broght up the topic of an engagement. obviously he spoke to my daughter about it because she told me before he did. that night he spoke to me and my husband ........his main reason for wanting an engagement was to let people know his intentions. beacuse many people in my family love to gossip and say many things about my daughter and him like (ooo he doesn;t like her/ she doenst like him.......it would lead no where....y waste time with one guy/girl) that kind of drama. the other reason was to let me and my husband be more secure with his relationship wiht my daughter like making a promise that he will always love her. and last but not least secure the reationship with my daughter. she has been taking the things to heart what were being negetaviely said about the two of them.
above all he promised that he wouldnt want to marry my daughter without her finishing school because he knows how much of an issue that is with me and my husband. he also knows the value of an education becuase he grew up in a home where all of his siblings have quallifed jobs and his parents stress the importance of an education like i do. i already know that she has intentions of marrying him and she told me that she wants to and has to finish college and begin her career before marriage to him.
i know both of thier intentions and i even spoke to his parents for reassurance i would just like to know what you guys think....do u think an engagemnt would be positive in this situtaion? i trust my daughter and her boyfriend..........its just that my family have been putting many negative ideas in my head about him and her ......im starting to think it was a bad idea what should i do......please give some advice .........thank you to those who have replied