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|Wed, 05-14-2003 - 8:59am|
My father left us when i was 12. He was/is an alcoholic that was dishonorably discharged from the military because of his alcoholism and weight. The military told him he could stay but he would have to get help. He refused. Anyway he hasnt seen any of us except my mom (at court hearings) in the last 16 years. He hasnt made any effort to see us either. He never paid child support on time to my siblings and most of the time paid nothing.
Anyway here is the problem. My sister is 20 and functions on the level of a 4 year old on good days. My mother is getting up in years, has high blood pressure with elevated -i think it is C protein levels which means she could have a heart attack at any moment and other health problems. She is on medication but i worry about what will happen to my sister since my father has shown no interest in her in the last 20 years, my brother is self-centered and if he "babysits" her he pretty much is just there until my mother gets back. He does nothing for my sister at all. All my mothers relatives live out of state and she refuses to move there. Why you ask? They are controling and will take over every aspect of her life if she lived there. I live in Germany with my husband and although he adores my sister i dont feel that he should have the responsibility of taking care of her especially since we decided not to have kids. Also i dont think she could handle the 10 hour flight from the US to here without disrupting the whole plane.
Any Idea of what I can do? Ive talked to my mom about it but she tends to take Scarletts attitude "ill think about it tomorrow after all tomorrow is another day".