Am I being selfish?
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|Tue, 09-09-2003 - 2:19pm|
Our family is mature, and there are no grandkids yet, and I feel like buying gift tit for tat with my mum and dad is silly. I tried last year to get them to cut back, I tried to empasize that spending time with each other is infinitly more valueable to me than buy each other "stuff".
It's not like I can buy what I feel like for them, they tell me what they want, and ask me what we want. I feel like is if something I want, and I tell you, it the same as me just buying it for myself.
There is not any thoughtfulness involved, it's pure materialism. I'd rather MAKE something with LOVE for them. I have suggested making stuff and they rejected it last year. I just think Christmas, Birthdays are for Children, not for adult to give each other STUFF they could just buy for themselves. It's not like my parents have ever bought me stuff I couldn't afford myself, something really special or unique that would mark a special life event.
I want this gift giving material sillyness to end, save it for when we have children. I'm 30, hubby is 33. Isn't is time we do what we want, and not have holidays dictated by MY Mummy and Daddy. BTW his family is THRILLED not to waste time shopping for STUFF! and we already have grand plans TIME together for appies and drinks christmas eve!
My single sister is happy, she's always strapped for cash and feels pressure to spend the same amount on me and dh, this year we are going dutch on a nice long dinner out Together! Time Together!
Am I nuts? How do I handle my mother, who ALWAYS wants her way and pouts when she doesn't get it. We haven't spoken for 3 weeks because I said that dh and I wouldn't be attending my cousins gift opening. We went to the bbq the week before the wedding, spend major $$ on travel and hotel to attend, gave a gift, shouldn't that be enough?