Am I being silly about my step daughter and money?

Well, I think babysitting is the right term for structured day care type service for the grandchild. And I think the insinuation to the OP was unnecessary.

I'm of the mind that I'm not spending my remaining years tied down 5 or 6 days a week taking care of grandchildren, while the parents spent left and right. And even if they didn't, grandparents don't owe that to their adult kids, anymore than they owe them cellphones, rent money, car insurance, etc.

And for those who have to use daycare, I much preferred that to my mother taking care of my child. No way, jose.

Sounds like it worked fine in your family. Glad you got to experience that.

I see alot of elderly people working now, more than I ever have. My nearest W-M is a prime example. I think 30 or 40 years ago these kind of people would have been retired and able to help with childcare more.

I wouldn't look down on a grandparent charging for taking care of their grandchild 5 or 6 days a week. Especially if they needed the money. The times are a changing. (for the worse, as far as I can tell!)