Am I being taken advantage of?
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Am I being taken advantage of?
| Thu, 03-01-2012 - 8:35am |
I have a friend in another area who has who children, 8 and 18.
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San
I think your friend is really tacky (in that regard).
Thanks.
After I approach her if she takes it the wrong way, then I will let the friendship go.
That seems really presumptuous for a friend of only 6 months to send her 18yo dd "in her place" and to assume that you are willing to pay for both of her kids, especially the adult one that wasn't even in the original invitation. Why did someone need to go in her place at all, unless the 8yo has some kind of special needs that you could not deal with? If you were old friends with a history of reciprocating on expenses, you'd known the older dd for years, etc it would be different. As someone mentioned, since you issued the invitation she could have taken it to mean that you intended to pay--but if she's a stickler for etiquette/keeping score then she would also know that was "her turn" to treat you and your dd.
If you want to do things with her or her kid again, make sure to bring up in advance that it will be "dutch". If you suspect that she is having financial difficulties then suggest something that's practically free, like taking a picnic to a park. If she continues trying to set it up so you have to pay then she is taking advantage of you.
Yes, next time I will definitely mention that it is dutch or maybe we will just go to the park..Excellent idea.