An angry mother who holds grudges...

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Registered: 05-04-2004
An angry mother who holds grudges...
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Sat, 03-26-2011 - 6:19pm

Hello! I could write a book on this, but I won't. I'll try to simplify things. I moved to Philadelphia in August because my mom kicked me out. I don't blame her though. The experience in Philly was so bad that when I returned home, my attitude was very different. I felt deep gratitude and began helping around the house A LOT! I was so grateful to be out of the stressful situation in Philly, it's hard to describe the level of relief.

My mom's been fixing up my old bedroom and helping me out here and there with things like a spring jacket, but when she's angry she holds these things over my head and claims I'm NOT grateful, which is untrue. So, sometime in the past 2 weeks, she must have mentioned a rule about renting Comcast movies, I I'd forgotten. I rented one today and told her, forgetting the rule and not expecting her to be angry. She said I take advantage of her and that's just who I am. I offered the $6, but it didn't matter to her. In her eyes, I'm an untrustworthy, person who takes advantage, and takes what they do for me to granted.

I'm so angry I don't even want to clean their house anymore. I was happy and optimistic at first, but now I just feel wiped out and depressed.

Does anyone have any experience with this? Does anyone have any advice? I would be grateful.

Thanks, Jan

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Registered: 03-30-2007
Sat, 03-26-2011 - 6:35pm

Sounds like you defied you Mom.

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Registered: 07-29-2002
Sat, 03-26-2011 - 6:40pm

I dont know your Mom, so I can only speculate.

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Registered: 05-04-2004
Sun, 03-27-2011 - 12:40am

I guess there aren't any other adults who have moved back in with their parents due to the economy that have had to deal with conflict.

These two responses are obviously not from the perspective of someone who can empathize with me.

If anyone out there can RELATE, I'd love to hear from you.

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Registered: 07-29-2002
Sun, 03-27-2011 - 10:59am

I had moved back in with my family while my Husband was deployed.

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Sun, 03-27-2011 - 12:39pm

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Registered: 03-30-2007
Sun, 03-27-2011 - 1:11pm

I have three adult children that have at some point moved back in with me.

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Registered: 11-13-2009
Sun, 03-27-2011 - 2:09pm
That was pretty harsh, Hearto.

And I 100% agree.

 

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Registered: 03-06-2011
Sun, 03-27-2011 - 5:20pm

K Song. I never had to move back home and I'm so glad I never did. I would have the same problem you're having. I know some middle aged people who advice us "stay at home for as long as you can". But if your parents are toxic.... then what?

Forgetting about ordering Comcast is a common thing! Do not beat yourself up over it. Just learn from your mistake and don't do it again. Be sure the movie is a "free on demand" movie instead of "on demand". I had room mates who ordered pay per view in the past and I had to tell them not to order. Yes. Grown men! The cable was in my name, so that's why I was so anal about it.

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Registered: 03-06-2011
Sun, 03-27-2011 - 5:23pm

Azure and O'Hearto are runners up for the "harsh post of the week" award.

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Registered: 08-10-2010
Sun, 03-27-2011 - 6:30pm

Pointless and disruptive.

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