Are these comments insulting, or am I being too sensitive?
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|Mon, 09-17-2012 - 9:30am|
I have a newer friend who, over time, has made what I consider insulting comments about my kids.
For example, my 22 year old is not in school full time, but he is working and is planning on taking a class a semester. He's trying to figure out what he wants to do with his life...not unusual for this age.
My friend made a comment indicating my son was a screw up. I don't see him that way, but I didn't say anything.
Another example...her daughter met my son early in the friendship and my friend said to me, "I told my daughter she should date your son and she said "no...he's not that cute."
Granted...her daughter was the one who made the comment, but my friend thought this was funny. I think my son is adorable, by the way. And her daughter is not anything great. But I WOULD NEVER SAY THAT.
My friend has a sarcastic sense of humor, which I think is funny most of the time. But her whole family is very negative about other people, and it's something I didn't recognize until we had coffee one day, and my friend made a flip comment about something I told her - in confidence - about something one of my kids was dealing with.
I had reached my limit, and I told her she had a big mouth, and told her I have enough to deal with, and got up and walked out of the cafe.
I know I didn't handle it well, but am wondering...what do you say to someone who continually makes derogatory comments about your family or kids? Do you ignore it, then just ignore that person?
I'm wondering if I should go back and tell her WHY I was so upset that day. Am I being too sensitive?
I'd appreciate hearing other people's thoughts.