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Being green isn't my colour!
| Sat, 05-28-2011 - 1:04pm |
I will start this post off by admitting I'm jealous which makes me not the best person to judge situations with my DD's future MIL. But this woman is still driving me crazy & I think her actions towards my DD are unfair. I believe DD is going into a lifetime where her DH will always side with his Mommy.
Here is the jealous part. I know each person has separate ways of dealing with relationships. DD has a son who is 4. Our DGS has mobility
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Sorry to sound so negative... but your DD knew what she's getting into. And to continue is her problem, and you should drop it as yours.
I know how you feel, insofar as no matter how old your kids get, we still hate it when they hurt. But sometimes they have to learn the hard way....
My Mom was always really good about playing the bad guy for me when peer pressure got bad. She hasn't had to be the bad guy for me in years, but I know if I needed her to she would be right there, darth vader mask and all. I maintain the same for my kids.
Maybe if you just let her know that you are there for her, no matter what. It would at least give her some comfort. And the support to stick to her guns. And then there is the point that no one should allow themselves to be upset in order to make someone else happy.
Hugs to you both in regards to the difficult MIL. My sister is currently getting married. Her inlaws are very nice but definitely nothing like us. I'm kind of curious of what they think of us......
Yep, families are very different. DD's fiance family aren't bad people. They all love a big party & our family tends to be quiet. It's just that future MIL is very determined to control everything. She drove one dil away, she took a job a 4 hr drive away from mil so that she & her DH got some privacy after they got married. Then after mil came to visit & stripped the wallpaper off the dining walls without permission, they brought a dog. MIL is terrified of dogs, so she don't visit them now. But this woman can be very nice if you follow her rules.
Dee
You are right, it's still hard to deal with your feelings when your babies hurt. Don't care how old they are. lol
He is well meaning but doesn't get boundaries. My friend didn't recognize her house and passed it 4 times before she called her Dh in a panic. Her Dh never said anything to her because he knew she would be upset.
The same fil had his daughters house completely rewired because of one bad light switch.
First, the other mother can wear whatever she wishes to the wedding as can any of the guests. Hopefully she will chang eher mind or at least brighten it up w/ a scarf.
Thanks for your response. I appreciate the opportunity to look at all sides & reassess my own
Hi, I don´t want to sound insensitive, but your getting into a problem that in fact is not yours. As a mom, I´ll probably tell my daughter