Being supporting, getting tough
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|Tue, 09-02-2003 - 2:34pm|
I feel the affects of this in that I can tell she doesn't completely trust me and she gets worried that I'm going to fall out of love with her, change my mind about wanting to be with her, etc. All of these difficulties in her upbringing have made her a high stress person. She gets worried about health, scared to go on trips, and many other small things. It doesn't consume her constantly, but she gets very worried about many things. Things that to me seem rediculous. Then, when I'm not supportive of her anxiety she gets very angry at me that I'm not caring for her.
She knows she does this, knows she has these fears, stess, etc. She acknowledges most of it, but doesn't seem to be able to handle it very well. I can't tell if she's improving, getting worse, or is staying the same. I'm a very positive and trusting person so I want to believe that she's getting better, but I just don't know.
So, what am I asking here? Well, I guess I'm looking for a little insight from anyone on this. Will this improve? I'm worried that I'm going to always have to go over the top to show her that I love her and to trust that I love her. I love her, but I think that there is more love that I can give and more love I could feel if she trusted me more. I'm also worried that there will always be these fears that she is going to have and I'm going to have to deal with. I care for her a lot, but her stress and fears rub off on me and put her in moods that are very difficult for me to handle. She can get very angry and frustrated with me when she is in these modes and I therefore feel the affect. It's very hard and I'm scared that it's never going to change.
Any insight out there?