Best friend dating other friend's ex. Can't stand it.

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Best friend dating other friend's ex. Can't stand it.
Sun, 09-02-2012 - 11:54am

My best friend of ten years is extremely outgoing and inclusive. She's always bringing new people into our friend group, sometimes to the point where it's unmanageable. Like this situation...

2 years ago, my best friend "adopted" into the friend group a girl who then became one of our fairly close friends.

This new girl began dating a guy 6 months ago, moved in with him after a month, and were together for 4 months. They broke up in May. I never thought it was a good decision, but that's beside the point based on whats happening now.

Not two weeks after they broke up, my best friend started hanging out with that girl's ex. ALL THE TIME. I didn't think it was right, but she insisted that he was just a good friend. Fast forward 2 months: now they're dating. I HATE IT. 

I get that the girl and this guy were only together for a few months, but I still feel it's wrong! It's too soon. 

As I said, my best friend and I have been close for 10 years, and I think this is just a crappy thing to do. My best friend and this girl have now had SO much drama, that I don't want to be around either of them (which basically eliminates all the possibilities for hanging out because BF is the "center of everything") I don't care how my BF feels about girl #2, it's wrong to date her ex so soon after they broke up. 

I have no desire to hang out with my BF and her new boyfriend, be around them, or have anything else to do with them. I'm disgusted. 

Any thoughts or ideas on how I should handle them being together? Honestly, I think they're probably good for eachother (better fit than the guy and his first girl), but I just don't want to see it. I know that if I want to see my friends (or hang out with our whole friend group), I'm going to have to see them and deal with them being together... It just sucks...

Just need to vent...