Sorry, I don't have any advice except that
Just wanted to say...that I have a December birthday too...just a few days before Christmas!!
I've never heard of anyone asking for years for a suprise birthday party.
My Grandmother threw me a surprise party this year, when I went home to visit.
Well, unfortnately it doesn't sound like your family or friends are throwing you that surprise
I feel yer pain. I only had ONE surprise party thrown for me and it wasn't a surprise. Someone let it slip out that I was having a surprise party - right in front of me! The two people, who planned everything, threw their hands up in the air. Anyway, I still had a good time. :smileyhappy:
I wouldn't expect one for your 32nd birthday. Most surprise parties are thrown at milestone birthdays... like... 35, :smileyhappy: Perhaps you could drop hints until then? But don't drop too many hints, because they could get all passive-agressive on you and "not get the memo".
I had a boyfriend, who's birthday was ON Christmas day. He didn't come from money and he was always lost in the shuffle, even as an adult. His parents did have a birthday cake for him in leiu of Christmas-time desserts (like rhubarb pie).