Birthday Wishes, Can they really come true?

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Birthday Wishes, Can they really come true?
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Sat, 10-16-2010 - 7:10pm

HI Everyone,

Crystal

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Registered: 02-03-2008
Sun, 10-17-2010 - 1:59am

Sorry, I don't have any advice except that

"IMAGINE" All The people, Living Life in Peace...................., "You may say I'm a dreamer; But, I'm not he only one." "Be A Dreamer and Imagine."
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Registered: 12-02-2008
Sun, 10-17-2010 - 8:08am

Hey Crystal

Just wanted to say...that I have a December birthday too...just a few days before Christmas!!

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Registered: 11-13-2009
Sun, 10-17-2010 - 12:35pm

I've never heard of anyone asking for years for a suprise birthday party.

 

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Registered: 07-29-2002
Sun, 10-17-2010 - 4:47pm

My Grandmother threw me a surprise party this year, when I went home to visit.

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Mon, 10-18-2010 - 1:34am
Hi,

Thank you. For some reason I feel better knowing that you understand where Im coming from. Its hard. I can understand how my b-day falls in between holidays but you would think that my friends and family could save up some extra money to throw a surprise party for me. Or at least put together a party where everyone brings something. I mean everyone who knows me knows, that whats more important to me is to have the people there rather than gifts. You know. Instead, they want to take me out for a drink at a bar, and dinner. Last year, my boyfriend threw a party, well kind of anyway, he bought pizza and told me to call all of my friends over for a party for me. I did just that. Maybe I dont get it. Thank you.
Crystal
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Registered: 02-16-2002
Mon, 10-18-2010 - 1:35am
Either way I say it or not.... I still dont get a party.
Crystal
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Registered: 12-02-2008
Mon, 10-18-2010 - 1:04pm

Well, unfortnately it doesn't sound like your family or friends are throwing you that surprise

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Registered: 11-24-2004
Mon, 10-18-2010 - 1:27pm

Hi Crystal,

I feel yer pain. I only had ONE surprise party thrown for me and it wasn't a surprise. Someone let it slip out that I was having a surprise party - right in front of me! The two people, who planned everything, threw their hands up in the air. Anyway, I still had a good time. :smileyhappy:

I wouldn't expect one for your 32nd birthday. Most surprise parties are thrown at milestone birthdays... like... 35, :smileyhappy: Perhaps you could drop hints until then? But don't drop too many hints, because they could get all passive-agressive on you and "not get the memo".

I had a boyfriend, who's birthday was ON Christmas day. He didn't come from money and he was always lost in the shuffle, even as an adult. His parents did have a birthday cake for him in leiu of Christmas-time desserts (like rhubarb pie).

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Registered: 11-13-2009
Mon, 10-18-2010 - 2:08pm
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What feelings of entitlement for one's b.d. Expecting them to save their extra money so they can throw you a party, while at the same time you don't expect gifts... it's contradictory. You are expecting gifts in the way of a party. Same thing.

I would immediately be turned off by this attitude, and wouldn't throw a party if my life depended on it. I think you are correct in that you don't get it.

Sorry.

 

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Registered: 02-16-2002
Mon, 10-18-2010 - 11:56pm
Thats true. I actually am throwing myself a birthday party. And I have invited a few of my friends who I havent seen in years. One of them being 20 years and the other one 10 years. One of them replied yes and the other one is going to see what she can do. So im really excited.
Crystal

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