Bridal shower overload

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Bridal shower overload
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Fri, 01-13-2012 - 12:38pm

Ok, maybe I am just out of the loop, but when did it become a custom to have 6 bridal showers ???

My nephew is getting married, his fiance is having 6 showers.

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Sun, 01-22-2012 - 8:25am

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Sat, 01-21-2012 - 10:10am
Trying to reign these disasters in can cause a lot of hurt feelings. My dd was nmarried last summer. Asked for only 1 shower because she knew that her bridesmaids, godmother & I would go to all showers & bring gifts. She didn't want this expense. She ended up with 3 because her MIL refused to have her or her DH's family attend the same shower & she didn't want to join with any of our family. She didn't even come to our family/friends shower. DD had refused an engagement party, his family was ticked. She refused a jack & jill (big up here) & one of her closest friends who was a bridesmaid was so ticked & won't let it go. She didn't bother to show up for the rehearsal dinner or call. Very stressful the next day at the wedding. This woman left early & the girls haven't spoken much since. It's sad as they have been friends since birth.
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Fri, 01-20-2012 - 10:59pm

all showers are in the same area.

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Registered: 09-06-2007
Thu, 01-19-2012 - 1:23pm

You certainly do not have to attend them all.

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Registered: 02-11-2008
Tue, 01-17-2012 - 6:30pm

Amazing!

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Tue, 01-17-2012 - 5:07pm

JMHO it is very generous of the friends to be willing to throw seperate ones in a way. too bad they didn't simply ASK the bride fi she was having a shower and either help with that hostess or else ask to be a guest.

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Sat, 01-14-2012 - 12:44pm
Just to clarify, I didn't say gifts weren't brought but as I went through my daughter's showers & her friends, they made it clear that gifts weren't expected. I believe that it would be unreasonable to expect bridesmaids (who where we live are expected to attend each shower), mothers & grandmothers to bring gifts to multiple showers if they can't afford it.
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Registered: 02-14-2004
Sat, 01-14-2012 - 12:32am

Weddings and new babies seem to bring out the worst in some people, don't they?

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Fri, 01-13-2012 - 8:15pm
Don't know what etiquette book your SIL is reading but my daughter just got married & anyone who is invited to the wedding is eligible to attend a shower. The right thing would be to ask you if you would like to attend like your SIL did with your Mom. Also, your Mom shouldn't be expected to bring a gift to each shower. A gift isn't a required payment to attend a shower. My daughter told her godmother, bridesmaids & I we weren't to bring gifts. We chose to ignore her but then we can afford to be generous. My Mom is on a reduced budget & due to poor health could only attend 1 shower. My daughter told her not to bring anything but got her something small. When my goddaughter was married, I attended all her showers even though I had one for her myself. I was there more to keep my friend company & she in turn attended all my daughter's showers for the same reason for me. Both girls had 3 showers. 6 seems like a lot of stress for the bride.

Is there any point talking to the bride?
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Fri, 01-13-2012 - 3:53pm

Wow!

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