brother ignoring parents

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-18-2010
brother ignoring parents
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Mon, 09-20-2010 - 10:40am

My brother owns the old family homestead.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2009
Mon, 09-20-2010 - 11:04am

This is hard to answer without more information about him.



Are you two close?

 

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Registered: 06-18-2010
Mon, 09-20-2010 - 11:10am

We're not as close as we used to be.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-26-2006
Mon, 09-20-2010 - 1:23pm
I have a feeling your brother thinks your parents are cramping their styles. But I'm sure your cousins and parents would like to see each other too. Perhaps you should call him and ask him why he never invites your parents. You could also mention that your mother feels slighted.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2009
Mon, 09-20-2010 - 8:42pm

Did you decide whether to mail it or not?

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-18-2010
Tue, 09-21-2010 - 12:23pm
No. I haven't decided.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2009
Tue, 09-21-2010 - 12:33pm

Oh... I thought your parents were behind you on this.



If not, then at the least, I'd wait a few days to think it over some more.



 

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-02-2007
Wed, 09-22-2010 - 12:21pm

Since both your mother and your brother object to your "tending to their business," you are volunteering for a thankless, no-win role as the relationship-fixer.

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Registered: 06-26-2006
Wed, 09-22-2010 - 1:37pm

Hi Riverwest,



Welcome to the board! That was good advice you gave.

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Registered: 06-18-2010
Wed, 09-22-2010 - 5:53pm
Excellent advice!
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-26-2006
Wed, 09-22-2010 - 6:34pm
I think that would be the best thing to do at this point. Especially, since your mum doesn't like you to intervene. Some people just like to vent, but they don't want to confront the person who upset them.

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