Brother's Sudden Unexplained Hostility
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|Thu, 07-15-2010 - 7:09pm|
I was living overseas to escape an abusive husband. My mother died recently. She lived in the same town as my half-brothers. Because of past and current abuse issues, I had not been physically with them in years. I always kept in close contact with my mother and sent her gifts and money when she needed it.
My older half-brother contacted me overseas about her death. He was warm and kind and communicative (it was even a bit over the top), and my other brother was friendly too.
As soon as I set foot in the US, my older brother changed; he became rude, and then stopped communicating with me. I have been delayed in getting to where they are (it's so far!)because of illness, but my mother was cremated. I have an elderly dog who has been ill and couldn't fly. My brother was sarcastic about that, as if delaying because of a dog was stupid. This dog is a sweetheart who has been with me through some tough times (unlike any humans). What does he want me to do, dump him?
Now I have had to have surgery, but he acts as though he doesn't believe me. Also, I never got my driver's license. Since my bro gets several days a month off from work, I would have thought he'd at least offer to pick me up part of the way. I'm going to try to learn to drive and get my license asap. Meanwhile my dog can't fly (and I hate it anyway), trains don't take dogs, and I can't leave him because he's kind of complicated (meds, special diet, etc).
Anyway, my brothers won't talk to me anymore out of the blue and won't tell me why. There have also been some snide, bullying gestures from my older brother (details too long). I have been so depressed and stressed out because of this. His wife just left him (as did a previous one for domestic abuse).
I don't know if he's just abusive, if I did something (not that I know of), if this is sudden or he was planning it, or if it's about money, as there is money involved in the estate. He is the executor.
It was suggested to me that I should get a lawyer. I'll have to go down there and settle this, but I'm afraid they're going to try to shut me out of things now. It's all so unkind and unnecessary.
I'm not sure what to do.