Can't Deal with Mother and Sister!

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Registered: 12-17-2008
Can't Deal with Mother and Sister!
Tue, 06-04-2013 - 3:04pm

I will try and make this as short as possible. When I was growing up, my Mother use to get so upset that my Dad was never home. He was a sports instuctor and traveled a lot. I am the oldest of three kids. My Mother would get upset at me and call me names and tell me I was no good and useless. I had enough and drank and just didn't care. At 16 I got pregneant and my Parents said the only way I could keep the baby was to get married. I knew I was going to keep my baby no matter what but I did get married.  My Sister would get into fist fights with my Mother after I moved out. My Mother wasn't and isn't like that every day. There are days that She is very loving, helpful and nice. I've always lived in the next town over. We've had our ups and downs. My Sister ended up just like my Mother. We have good days but I have a huge amount of resentment towards my Mother and a lot towards my Dad. He messed around a lot on Her but I've heard from my Sister that She messed around first on Him. I have tried over the years (I'm 45) to move past this stuff but there are still a lot of issues. Yes I have seen a therapist and She said I need to stop letting my Mother continue to control me and make me feel like I need to do what pleases Her. I called my Sister the other day (Lives in another State) and vented about my Mother. Said I'm tired of Her not being happy with what I say and do. My Sister turned around and told My Mother. I called my Sister and said to Her that it wasn't right She went to Mom.. I was venting and needed someone to talk to. She got mad and started calling me names. I hung up and thats where it's left off. I hate that I don't have a normal relationship with them and wish I could just not care one bit but it hurts so much that I feel like I can't go to my Family. I know others have Family issues but I just feel so alone in this.