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|Thu, 12-11-2003 - 10:00am|
Hi there...I'm wondering if someone would be able to give me advice on dealing with my sister who is 36 years old. I myself am 31 and I am having a hard time lately dealing with her cheapness. She and her husband have wonderful paying jobs & they just had their first daughter 11 months ago. My sister is the type that gets a gift from someone & re-gifts it to someone else. She also leaves all price tags on her gifts so everyone can see how much she spent...although she never pays that price but wants people to think that she did. We have a very small family & for Christmas she asked me how much I would be spending on my nephew who is also 11 months & I told her to spend what you feel is right. I have 4 nieces/nephews to buy for & my SIL has 6 and her husband doesn't make much money so they are very tight with money but are still very generous. My sister said she spent $13 on my nephew which to me is really insulting. My SIL spend $30 and she is the one that has the most to buy for & they don't make alot of money. We also decided to just exchange 1 gift per family this year for the adults because my sister said my family is getting to big...I have 3 nieces & nephews in my immediate family & she has 2 and her husband was an only child. REAL BIG! So we decided to do that & I said let's spend between $35 and $40 and then my sister said no too much so I said how about we do $25 and then go to KMart and just buy for charity & go out for lunch thinking that was a great idea & my sister said the lunch would be included in the cost for the Christmas present so that was a no go. My SIL and I bought a ton for charity. Another example is that I decided to have Lasik eye surgery & my husband's benefits pay for that in full...which if I didn't get it covered I wouldn't be able to afford to have it done. My sister said it must be nice to have that luxury because she wants it done but can't afford it. So I finally gave it back to her & said if you return the $1,500 in ceramic tile and the stainless steel refrig that you just got for your house you would be able to get it done as well. She was speechless. She also gets a ton of stuff for free (diapers, food, garbage bags...etc.) and this stuff probably totals $2,000 a year which is a huge savings and when her daughter was born she received 40 cases of diapers for different weight ranges & 40 tubs of wipes & my SIL was standing there who also just had a baby 10 days before and she offered her a carton of wipes...WOW really nice of her. I guess I'll stop venting but does anyone have any advice? I'm just so tired of her being so cheap that it is really starting to hurt my relationship with her. I can't stand it anymore & don't know how to deal with it. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!