Chime in, please, on SIL's request

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Registered: 12-16-2008
Chime in, please, on SIL's request
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Sun, 03-20-2011 - 8:55am

I was at dinner Friday night with my family, when my sister-in-law called my husband (his sister).

Her 19 year old son is going to visit my 21 year old son out of state.

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Registered: 03-06-2011
Sun, 03-20-2011 - 7:24pm

I had a friend who did that. He pulled whatever he needed out of boxes and would put it back when finished. Even his clothes were in boxes. He had two closets in his bedroom with nothing in them except a few boxes on the floor. I said "why don't you put your clothes away. He said, "I don't have any furniture". I told him "well hang up what you can and buy some dressers. He hung up pants and shirts (including t-shirts), but he kept his socks and underwear in boxes. Now he's married and living better.

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Registered: 12-16-2008
Sun, 03-20-2011 - 8:25pm

Thanks everyone for chiming in.

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Registered: 12-16-2008
Sun, 03-20-2011 - 9:19pm

ELC -

I don't know what my sis-in-law said to my husband, and I will ask him when he's home, but my guess it had something to do with my nephew going there, and she was worried about germs, etc.

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Registered: 06-16-1998
Sun, 03-20-2011 - 10:26pm

Knowing now that your nephew has a disease that makes him potentially more susceptible to "catching something" than the average 19 yo, I might amend my answer to: if SIL wants to pay for a cleaning service and your ds and his roommate don't care, then let her. Or she can pay for a hotel. Its not your responsibility to ensure that your adult son's living quarters are suitable for relatives who want to stay over. And like you said, if he is that fragile then he probably shouldn't be going until his resistance is better.

This would be an interesting question for a doctor.

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Registered: 07-29-2002
Sun, 03-20-2011 - 10:28pm

You know I would still stand by you.

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Registered: 12-16-2008
Sun, 03-20-2011 - 10:53pm

Whether it's cancer, or recovering from an upper respiratory infection, my thoughts are similar:

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Registered: 10-14-2003
Mon, 03-21-2011 - 3:10am

I've been reading the responses to this thread just to get a better feel as the story progressed.

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Registered: 06-16-1998
Mon, 03-21-2011 - 3:17am

He's getting tattoos? I'd be much more concerned about risks associated with that than the germs present in your ds' apartment. Your dh ought to tell his sis to go fly a kite.

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Registered: 11-13-2009
Mon, 03-21-2011 - 3:18am
Good points.

 

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Registered: 11-13-2009
Mon, 03-21-2011 - 3:22am
It's difficult stopping an adult child from getting a tattoo... btdt.