Chime in, please, on SIL's request

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Registered: 12-16-2008
Chime in, please, on SIL's request
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Sun, 03-20-2011 - 8:55am

I was at dinner Friday night with my family, when my sister-in-law called my husband (his sister).

Her 19 year old son is going to visit my 21 year old son out of state.

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Registered: 03-06-2011
Mon, 03-21-2011 - 11:00pm

Yeah the son should clean up the place, if he invited his cuz to stay with him. But I also think the mother is meddling. Yeah her son is sick and all but he doesn't need his mother hovering over him.

I find it weird that she supported him getting the tat, but now she's concerned about the apartment he's visiting - not moving in to.

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Registered: 03-23-2011
Wed, 03-23-2011 - 4:54pm

I think that SIL shouldn't have been commenting on how clean anything was.

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Registered: 02-14-2004
Wed, 03-23-2011 - 10:45pm
I got a good laugh over your SIL...sorry. I understand worrying over a child with an illness, but he's living in the real world the rest of his life, so why do people have to jump through hoops because he's coming for a visit?

I'm quite sure your son and his roommate don't have dead cats laying on their kitchen counters or the remains of food fights stuck on their floors. I'm sure there is probably some clutter and probably dirty dishes, but it's not like they have open sewers or particularly "invasive" bacteria in their apartment. I think SIL is a nut case who enjoys telling other people what to do and that now her son is 19, she ought to let HIM be one of the guys. He surely has had plenty of education as to what is safe and what isn't due to his lukemia and since he's visited your son in his apartment before, he knows whether it's "safe" enough for him or whether he needs to rent a germ-free hotel room or simply stay at home.

I wish him good health...and a great visit with your son, even if the apartment isn't sparkling like Mommy's house.
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Registered: 12-16-2008
Wed, 03-30-2011 - 2:14pm

Sadie -

I feel as though you have caught the essence of my frustration with SIL.

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Registered: 12-16-2008
Wed, 03-30-2011 - 2:16pm

Oh...and for what it's worth to anyone, my sister-in-law is the one who "invited" her son to stay with my son.

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Registered: 10-11-2005
Fri, 04-01-2011 - 4:12am

First off I have a autoimmue disease {Grave's Disease & born with a heart defect} so there isn't a bug out there that doesn't have my name on it. {I have to have all of flu shots & pneumina shots as well, my immue system is ZERO}

~~Sam stitches well with others, runs with scissors in her pocket. Cheerful and stupid.
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Registered: 02-14-2004
Mon, 04-04-2011 - 3:10am

I must admit, I am a bit bugged by the suggestion that perhaps the aunt (or somebody other than the boys) could pay for a clean-up of the "boys" apartment.

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Tue, 04-05-2011 - 8:06pm

BWAHAHAHAHAH!!! I would tell my dh there is no way in heck he is paying for a housekeeper for perfectly able young men. They can do it themselves or hire it done themselves w/ THEIR own money.

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