Co-worker sabotage

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Co-worker sabotage
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Thu, 08-04-2011 - 1:48pm

It turns out I have a difficult

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Registered: 12-02-2008
Fri, 08-05-2011 - 8:10pm
Wow....harsh and rude!
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Registered: 08-10-2010
Fri, 08-05-2011 - 4:55pm
helga1969 wrote:
As a matter of fact, my question to you was ... why you getting on Jake'smom for being talked about?

I wasn't, and I've already answered your question.

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Registered: 08-10-2010
Fri, 08-05-2011 - 1:29pm

paradigmshifter - good points, and I do understand what you're saying.

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Registered: 12-02-2008
Fri, 08-05-2011 - 12:39pm
"No one – not me or anyone else – is attacking her."

That may be the case....but it did SOUND as if you were. And it came off that way to more than just me... Just saying.


As a matter of fact....you're sounding a bit combative to your replies to me as well. I dunno if its just your tone or whatever.....but you do tend to come off a bit....harsh!

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Registered: 10-14-2003
Fri, 08-05-2011 - 12:07pm

No one – not me or anyone else – is attacking her.

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Registered: 08-10-2010
Fri, 08-05-2011 - 11:31am
helga1969 wrote:
I have to say....IMO, I find your posts to be a bit combative.

The poster came here be/c she had an issue with a coworker. Her post was simple....Confront the guy or not??

A lot of the replies have been attacking the poster, as if she had some sort of control over what had occured. She learned what she learned....it is what it is. Her question is what does she do NOW that she knows what she knows... She cannot go back & change what she heard!

Attacking her for having received the information that she did....makes it seem like you're blaming her for being talked about?!

I just simply do not understand how or why any of this has anything to do with the poster?! And why your replies seem to attack her? Care to explain??


Sure, I’ll explain.

No one – not me or anyone else – is attacking her.

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Registered: 12-02-2008
Fri, 08-05-2011 - 11:27am
I don't think your work history is an issue either.

As a matter of fact, my question to you was ... why you getting on Jake'smom for being talked about?

I didn't, and still don't, understand the combative nature of your responses. So yes, let's agree to disagree.

You seem like a nice enough person. I was just trying to understand where you're coming from.... be/c it was clear to me that we were seeing this differently. I'm not saying either of us is right or wrong, but I just don't get it....so I asked?!
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Registered: 08-10-2010
Fri, 08-05-2011 - 11:17am

I don't think my work history is the issue here, but I've worked in all types of environments - large, small, corporate, gov't., non-profit/social services, environments where someone was not liked, environments where

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Registered: 11-13-2009
Fri, 08-05-2011 - 9:50am
I agree with you regarding Jakesmom. She's been posting here for awhile about various issues, and has had some wonderful advice for others. Going on and on at her for what's already done isn't productive. I'm glad that she's decided not to confront him, he sounds like a nasty person.

Jakesmom, I also used to work in social services and I broke a few rules in order to get someone the help I thought they needed. If he can't see that it's not an all black or white issue, then he's in the wrong line of work.

 

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Registered: 12-02-2008
Fri, 08-05-2011 - 9:19am
I have to say....IMO, I find your posts to be a bit combative.

The poster came here be/c she had an issue with a coworker. Her post was simple....Confront the guy or not??

A lot of the replies have been attacking the poster, as if she had some sort of control over what had occured. She learned what she learned....it is what it is. Her question is what does she do NOW that she knows what she knows... She cannot go back & change what she heard!

Attacking her for having received the information that she did....makes it seem like you're blaming her for being talked about?!

I just simply do not understand how or why any of this has anything to do with the poster?! And why your replies seem to attack her? Care to explain??


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