Cold-shouldered, Ungrateful Sister
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|Tue, 08-19-2003 - 1:27pm|
My family has been a topic of a couple of my past posts but I'm not sure if I should confront my sister on a couple of issues. She is sooooo sensitive and I'm really walking on thin ice with her as it is and I'm not sure IF I should say something to her or WHAT to say to her so it doesn't send her over the edge. She does seem to have some emotional issues. (Like when we were growing up together and would pass each other in the hall she would scream out at the top of her lungs when I passed her, "BITTTTTTTCH!" No reason, out of the blue).
The problem is that my sister first of all ignores me. My mother and I recently had an argument about how she treated DH but my sister has really nothing to do with it unless my mother told her I mentioned that my mother gives my sister everything and me nothing. Still, that has to do with my mother. (My sister has been given a $350,000.00 house, two cars, a college education, trust fund to mention a few things. I have been given nothing.) I recently asked my mother how she could justify all that and she never answered. She may have told my sister and that has made my sister mad. My sister and I have never really kept in close contact and the only reason I can think of why she ignores me is that she's afraid that my mother might give me money which would be less for her. I send her a card for birthdays and Christmas and I send her son gifts for his birthday and Christmas. She has never said thank you once for anything over the years or sent a card. Last year I said, "I'm sorry we didn't hear from you at Christmas". Her reply was, "I don't care if anyone understands or not that I have a young child. I had to address 75 cards for Mike's family and after that I was tired."
I'm trying desperately to keep in touch with her, but she just basically ignores me. She will show up sometimes to a family function but rarely talks. Now that my mother and I aren't speaking, I don't know when we'll ever see them.
Should I ask her what's wrong and take the risk of her never speaking again, I would have to write a letter, she doesn't return emails or phone calls. Lately I have emailed her twice and left two phone messages. She hasn't replied.
Thanks for listening! Everyone's replies mean a lot to me!