Confused....Need Advice

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Registered: 12-15-2010
Confused....Need Advice
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Wed, 01-05-2011 - 3:14pm

My relationship with my dad isn't the best and I really wish it was! I just don't really know how to make things better especially because my step mother is nothing but rude to my sisters, my mom, and I! I just don't know what to do because I love my dad and I want a better relationship with him. Any suggestions?

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Registered: 03-30-2007
Wed, 01-05-2011 - 3:40pm

There isn't much information to go on, but,

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Registered: 12-02-2008
Wed, 01-05-2011 - 4:06pm
I agree with Ohearto!!!

You should talk to your dad in private, say out for lunch or a cup of coffee. Tell him that you care about him & miss the times you used to spend together.

I would not bring up step mom & how you think she's rude or whatever your feelings are of her. YES, you are entitled to your feelings but by going off on your dad about her, you're putting him in the middle.

I also then suggest you speak to step mom too...try to come to some sort of common ground with her. She may have her guard up be/c she's the newcomer to the situation... Try giving her the benefit of the doubt.


Good luck! I had a wonderful step mom...its my dad that was the creep!!
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Registered: 03-11-2008
Wed, 01-05-2011 - 9:55pm

Does your dad like sports?

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Registered: 11-13-2009
Wed, 01-05-2011 - 10:24pm
Oh, that's good.

 

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Registered: 03-11-2008
Wed, 01-05-2011 - 10:29pm

That's how we got our dad out of the house. Ha ha! Wife number 2 was a real witch! Wife number 3 - no bargain either.

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Registered: 12-15-2010
Wed, 01-05-2011 - 10:48pm

I called my dad up and saw if we could go out for dinner at a Chinese food restaurant tomorrow and he said we could. My dad loves Chinese food and my stepmom doesn't and he said she has a book club meeting tomorrow night so she couldn't come. I told him I just wanted it to be him and I and he said sure that she wouldn't even want to come if she could. So I am going to talk to him tomorrow.

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Registered: 11-24-2004
Wed, 01-05-2011 - 11:33pm

That's good. You need some dad / daughter time. We spend some time with our dad sans the stepmum when we're watching sports on TV in his "man cave" in the finished basement. He also has a pool table, so we shoot plenty of pool when we visit. She almost never comes downstairs, so we have time to spend alone with Dad.

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