Cousin Is So Annoying!

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Cousin Is So Annoying!
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Sat, 12-22-2012 - 4:36am

Okay so my cousin came visit me but all she does is stay on her damn cell phone! She has call her husband so he can give her directions to go places in the town I live in! I know how to give directions to her okay I do live here he does not and I do not any need help from her husband! She claims she weighs 160 pounds but she looks like she weighs 260 pounds! Her husband is coming here to my house he is bringing students he is training on his Semi truck! I really do not want strangers coming to my house on Christmas! Look her husband it is okay for him to stay here in my house! She got snappy with me when she was on the phone with her husband because I was trying ask a question! I love her but this is my house no is going disrespect me! Her husband wants her only shop at HEB for food and does not want her go to Wal-Mart buy the food there. He is a control freak and he will not control me. I really never got along with my cousin but I am trying to be nice to her! I getting to the limit where I want her to go home so I can have my peace and quiet!! My husband works nights and needs to spend time with me alone. We are very quiet people that like to play on our computers and sleep durning the day when he gets home from work. My cousin brought their dog she leaves him in the crate it is way to small for the dog so I have a bigger dog crate so he has room to move! The dog does not need to be in the crate when we are home. She needs to feed her dog  his so he can stop eating my dogs exspensive dog food! I having a issue with my husband about his computer customer my cousin was getting my business. Look I have it under control it will be dealt with soon!

Christina

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Registered: 07-23-2012
Thu, 01-10-2013 - 5:17pm

Nikki,

So have you gotten your house back to yourselves now? Did you talk to your cousin and let her know that her visiting time is over?

It sounds like there is a lot of drama going on right now and with having to study for college, you don't need that in your home at this time. I hope you are able to get things worked out.

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Sat, 01-12-2013 - 8:54am

Well she is gone everything is back to normal! She had got mad at me for eating her food and made up a story that her husband gets upset with her if she has go to the store alot to buy food. Well looked at this way I will eat your food because your using my shower twice a day! Plus was she using my internet and watching my TV. She watched whatever she wanted on my TV and changed my channels when I was watching what I wanted to see on my TV! She used my hair brush and I did not like that at all! She and her hubby had sex on my blow up bed I felt that was very rude of them to do that in my house! They needed to go to hotel if they wanted to do that! Why I let her stay with me was trying to be nice to her but that was a mistake I made. I do not like hurting anyones feelings so that is why I did not tell her to leave. It worked out because she left I did not have to her to leave. She will not be staying with me at all and she can crash at someone elses house for all I care! She complained about her husband's ex-wife for three or four years I was so tired hearing her complain! Look she is the one married him so she knew he had a ex-wife and that they have kids together. She complains about her husband's kids also! She talked ugly about my several of my good friends when she was staying with me. She is very jealous of one of my friends and she said she did not like her at all. She gets upset when I show her my friends that just had babies. She wants kids but she can not stand her husband's son because he does not mind her. Look who is the child and who is the adult here. If she can not take of her dog and is mean to dog then she has no business trying have a child. I do not know what her problem is but I know I had enough of her crap! Getting mad at me for eating her food was very immature of her to do. Plus she mad about the cokes me and my hubby drank that we bought. But she left because her husband Semi was broke down and he wanted to visit his mom. She left their dog with me to take care of that was very rude of her to do that to me. One of my dogs did not like her dog because he is not same breed plus my dog is older and set in his way lol! Yeah my dogs are Chihuahuas they really only like their own breed. Her husband had court over child support and the judge wanted to know where my cousin was staying and she almost had to give my address! I was not happy I was almost dragged into her husband's ex-wife drama! If his ex-wife would have gotten my address I would have been harrassed by her! She does not live very far from me and that scares me to death cause she has mental problems. My cousin and her husband have way to many issues that I do not want to deal with in my life!

 

Christina

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Tue, 01-15-2013 - 2:21am

I'm glad things worked out and that your cousin no longer lives in your home.  If I were you, I would decide right now that you don't like people staying at your house and come up with a word track you can and will use whenever anybody asks you if they can.  Something like "I'm sorry, but we just don't have enough room for people to stay at our house".  Then, just keep repeating that word track every time somebody asks...whether it's different people or the same person asking over and over. 

You're right that you should have the say who is in your home, so don't feel guilty for admitting it just doesn't work out for you. 

You seem to be easily manipulated...things like your cousin changing the TV station when you're watching a program and you letting her do it and then being upset about it.  Since you know it's hard for you to confront somebody, don't put yourself in the position where you can be manipulated.  Just say "no" BEFORE the problems start and enjoy your home unhindered by unwanted guests.

I had to laugh, though, when you said they had sex on your blow-up mattress.  If they're married and they've been away from each other for a while while he's been on the road, I don't think that's such an odd thing for them to have done.  If they were whooping and hollaring, I can see why it bothered you, but you had me imagining the blow-up bed bursting and the two of them and the bed wildly flying around the room like a burst balloon. 

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Fri, 01-18-2013 - 6:12pm

Okay well I she change the channel when I left the room which was not okay with me! My rules is no one but me and husband can have sex in my house. If they wanted to do that they needed to rent hotel! We are no longer talking because I called her out on what she had did to me! Her getting mad at me for eating her food was ridiculous! She planned staying for months with me and that was not going to happen at all! I will have to clean my blow up bed now ugh they got stuff on it! Today the hot water heater broke and one of the reasons it broke is she took showers two to three time a day! Plus it was 16 years old but I did not have problems with it until came she and stayed with us.

Christina

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Sat, 01-19-2013 - 10:11pm

"My rules is no one but me and husband can have sex in my house."

Just wondering: when you have company do you tell them about this rule? And do you attempt to enforce it? I don't know how you could control this, but making it forbidden fruit would make some people do it just to prove that you cannot enforce it. 

There were plenty of things your cousin did that were rude or inconsiderate but I don't see how having sex with her husband is wrong. 

Good that she's now gone and hopefully she got the message that she is not welcome to come back.

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Tue, 01-22-2013 - 3:08am

This her second husband I never met him until December 24, 2012 plus we where not close cousins anyway why would want a person I really dislike having sex in my house on my blow up bed! They should have gone to have sex in his Semi truck it had a bed in it! If I am not close with you then you just can not have sex in my house! I only let people that are nice to me and that are very close with have sex in my house on my blow up bed! They where both rude to me and my husband! Still she is just to over weight the bed is fragile!

Christina

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Tue, 03-19-2013 - 7:11am

It is a blow up bed it could pop plus she is very over weight! I am just do not know her husband that well! I just do not want anybody having sex in my house! But they did now I have clean my blow up bed cause of that! She finally admitted she was mad I ate her food! I told her mom how she behaved in my house. My cousin was very angry with me and she called very ugly names. She is never welcome in my house again! I do not have to put with her crap! She called me pathetic and worthless piece of crap. Some other vulgar names I did not appreciate her doing that! Even when I told her I was sorry for telling her mom what she did! She did not accept my sorry! So I told okay be that way then stop texting me and calling me. She said I lied to her mother but I just told the truth she got in trouble with her mom. Her mom was trying make excuses for her too but that is not acceptable to behave the way she did in my house! She said her conversations where private that why she got ugly with me she did not want repeating them to anyone. She talking so loud it was so hard not to hear and she did not go to her car to talk in private about her issues with her husband's ex-wife. I told my mom about her problems with her husband's ex-wife! So what I tell my mother everything. She should not complain when she puts her problems with her husband's ex-wife on a public place called Facebook! This has been going on for three or four years everyone is tired of hearing her problems with her husband's ex-wife. She told me not to talk to her family which is my family! I have talked to them anyway she is not my boss! I also told them she told me I was not allowed to talk to them! She has major mental issues and she is very delusional!

Christina

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Sun, 12-01-2013 - 10:09pm

Update me and my cousin are talking again! We both said we where sorry! I am so happy!

Christina

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