Cousin Is So Annoying!

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Registered: 09-16-2007
Cousin Is So Annoying!
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Sat, 12-22-2012 - 4:36am

Okay so my cousin came visit me but all she does is stay on her damn cell phone! She has call her husband so he can give her directions to go places in the town I live in! I know how to give directions to her okay I do live here he does not and I do not any need help from her husband! She claims she weighs 160 pounds but she looks like she weighs 260 pounds! Her husband is coming here to my house he is bringing students he is training on his Semi truck! I really do not want strangers coming to my house on Christmas! Look her husband it is okay for him to stay here in my house! She got snappy with me when she was on the phone with her husband because I was trying ask a question! I love her but this is my house no is going disrespect me! Her husband wants her only shop at HEB for food and does not want her go to Wal-Mart buy the food there. He is a control freak and he will not control me. I really never got along with my cousin but I am trying to be nice to her! I getting to the limit where I want her to go home so I can have my peace and quiet!! My husband works nights and needs to spend time with me alone. We are very quiet people that like to play on our computers and sleep durning the day when he gets home from work. My cousin brought their dog she leaves him in the crate it is way to small for the dog so I have a bigger dog crate so he has room to move! The dog does not need to be in the crate when we are home. She needs to feed her dog  his so he can stop eating my dogs exspensive dog food! I having a issue with my husband about his computer customer my cousin was getting my business. Look I have it under control it will be dealt with soon!

Christina

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Registered: 09-16-2007
Sun, 01-06-2013 - 5:11am
UKgirl82 okay my cousin practically moved in my house! She is always on her cell phone! She is rude to me telling me and husband what to do in our own house! She has tooken over my TV and watches what she wants. She takes showers twice a day! I am not going to have sympathy for when she takes it out on me for what her husband does to her. I am not easily annoyed and she is a guest so she should not be doing these things in my house. She corrects my dogs in my house and she has no right to do that. Then she up and left going get her husband! She leaves her dog here for to take of while she is gone. It is business when I am also shopping with her and I do not prefer to shop at that HEB cause it is way to small plus very crowded! She does not have place to live so she crashes at friends and family houses. I am not going to be used for her a place to live. You must not understand what I am trying say Ukgirl82 cause feel sorry for my cousin that is taking advantage of me and my husband. She has gotten very ugly with me in my house and my husband to her to get out. She quickly said she was sorry I left it okay that is fine. I have told her many of times I do not like that her husband is constantly upsetting her and she agreed that is not right for him to do that to her. It would help if her husband controled his ex-wife that lady is causing way too many problems in their marriage. I can not help her if she does not want help from me. So her being angry with me about her husband being ugly to her is not going help the situation. Look I got out of alot of drama in my life when I lived with my parents and I do not need other people's drama messing up the way I live. I can not help my cousin has a bad marriage and this is her second marriage. I thought she was just visiting for the Christmas holiday not moving in okay that is why I am annoyed. Plus her dog peed on my couch and my backpack. Then she beated the dog instead of spatting on the butt once. She is so mean to that dog he is scared of her. Plus she had the dog in a crate that was way too small. I let her use my dogs bigger dog crate. She leaves the dog in the crate all the time.

Christina

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Registered: 08-08-2012
Sun, 12-30-2012 - 6:55pm

I find it rude that she is supposed to be visiting with you and is always on her cell. You should mention to her that you find it rude.

The husband should have asked you if he could bring extra people with him for a visit.

If you never got along with your cousin why are you trying to now? Think about it...would you have chosen her for a friend?

Hopefully you did have a good holiday.

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Sat, 12-29-2012 - 10:40pm

I take it you know your cousin well and she did not turn into an annoying person overnight?  If so, why did you invite her in the first place?  Just curious.

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Registered: 10-10-2007
Fri, 12-28-2012 - 7:30pm

Is your cousin still at your home?  Did you have a good Christmas?

 

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Registered: 10-14-2003
Mon, 12-24-2012 - 9:59am

I understand why that would be annoying.  The only thing you can do is to tell her, when she refuses to shop where you need to go, is that you are going to Walmart, or wherever, and point her to the nearest bus stop or give her the number to a cab company.  There is no reason why you have to be ridiculously accommodating.  Afterall, guests aren't supposed to be that demanding.  I would carry on with your day, and your routine, and don't let her or her husband's demands interfere with your day-to-day stuff.  If she insists on something, let her make it happen.  This is a lesson for the future - never invite her to stay with you again if you want to preserve whatever relationship you have with her. 

Unfortunately I had the same situation with my very best friend about 5 years ago.  It got so bad that she began critiquing my cooking (btw, she is now using my recipe in her restaurant as "authentic" Italian sauce) and demanding that I make lattes, cappuccinos, etc., at 11:30pm at night.  What I did was tell her that the kitchen was closed and the cook has retired, and if she wanted something she needed to help herself.  Then she expected me to drive her around to visit her friends (I know them but they aren't my friends) since she no longer had a car in this province, and virtually ignore me while she visited - even cracking some very offensive jokes at my expense.  So, the next year, when she was visiting, I told her that I simply didn't have the room.  I have  a 5 bedroom house and 3 people were living it in at the time, and yet I had no room.  I told her I had put away the extra beds as I planned to decorate.  Problem solved - and we're still friends.  I would've hated to have lost a 27 year friendship over that, but let me tell you, it was close!  She was a nightmare guest!

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Mon, 12-24-2012 - 6:26am

So what if it's "too small" and crowded? If that's where she wants to shop, why do you care? If you don't want to go into the shop, don't. Tell her it's crowded and you'll wait for her outside. I really don't see how where anyone else shops is any of your business.

As for her husband controlling her, I don't understand why this would make you angry. You should feel sorry for her and try to help her regain some confidence to stand up to him. You know the saying about judging a person not by how they treat their equals but by how they treat their inferiors? Perhaps you can learn something from that.

As for them fighting - again, a little more sympathy could go a long way. Have you ever considered how upset she might be after they fight and maybe try - oh, I don't know, comforting her?

If you are this easily annoyed, I suggest that you do not invite guests to stay with you anymore.

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Registered: 09-16-2007
Sun, 12-23-2012 - 11:25pm

I do not live with my parents and I am married I live  with my husband! She was invited by me! Why it bothers me to shop at HEB because the store is to small and it is too crowed plus her husband is controling her by telling where to shop. I shop at HEB and Wal-Mart! My husband does not control me he knows better! Her and her husband are fighting alot on the phone! This is annoying me because I do not wanna hear them fight! Plus her husband tried to control me and I will not put up with it because it is my house!!

Christina

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Registered: 08-18-2004
Sun, 12-23-2012 - 1:16pm
Why is she invited to your home? Do you still live with your parents? (And BTW, I'll always shop HEB over Walmart. why does it bother you?)

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