Cousin in a tricky situation
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|Tue, 09-24-2013 - 5:59pm|
I recently found out about a weird sort of situation and I'm not sure how to proceed (if at all). My cousin told me that she recently met a guy online and she referred to him as her "boyfriend." I have my own experiences with meeting guys online and I have friends who have had both negative and positive (read:marriage) experiences so I am not judging her for meeting a guy online.
The situation however, is a bit more complicated. My cousin is in her late 30s and is disabled (she has never been able to walk,only has the use of one arm and I think she is also epileptic). She lives with her mother (my aunt) and has never worked or attended school apart from a special education school when she was a child. My country offers very little in terms of leading a constructive life for persons with disabilities so although she has no problems functioning on a mental, emotional and intellectual level that is equal to persons of the same age, she is severely restricted by her disability.
My aunt is almost 80 years old and is no longer able to stand for long periods of time is unassisted. I am concerned about my cousin's new "friendship" due to the fact that both she and my aunt are quite vulnerable physically if she ever revealed important information to someone who could potentially be dangerous. My cousin joined Facebook about a year ago and the content of her posts and the detailed information on her location etc. demonstrate to me that she is not quite conscious of how to "safely" use social media.
I told her to be careful and I asked her for information about the guy which she readily provided. He lives in our country (which is a small one with a small society therefore rendering it even more dangerous as he can easily locate my cousin and aunt if he wanted to) but it was his name that worried me. I decided to do a Google search on him and it returned an entire pages of hits...all for different dating sites.
I am not saying that it's impossible for him to be nice to my cousin but at the same time, I have my doubts about a man who belongs to all of these dating sites and is simultaneously entertaining my cousin in a romantic manner (albeit from a distance). They have been chatting for two weeks according to what she tells me.
Is this a situation that I should butt out of or should I have a talk with my cousin and let her know about my concerns (and perhaps the Google search)? I feel sad for her because I am a little more than a decade younger than her yet have had opportunities that she never had and will never have. She's quite excited about this guy but I am worried that she will be hurt.
Thank you for your reply :)