Dad cursed and hung up on fiance!
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|Sat, 06-07-2003 - 12:58pm|
The problem is that they are trying to control every little detail, including the rehearsal dinner, which is being thrown by my fiance's family. Last week my mother was on the phone to me, badgering me about details of the rehearsal dinner. (I guess it is not up to her standards.) My fiance finally took the phone from me and told her to kindly let him handle it since he and his family were throwing it. I thought that was the end of it until the next day, when my mother left me a message about the "disrespectful" way in which my fiance spoke to her, especially since my parents are paying for the wedding. I called her back and said that I stood by him because the rehearsal dinner is his family's party and it was not our place to interfere. I heard my dad in the background cursing and calling my fiance horrible names, and it upset me, so I told my dad he was acting inappropriately and I started crying. He said, why doesn't your fiance talk to me directly? So my fiance called him and told him I was upset and he said it wasn't the first time he had seen me get upset about my parents' badgering. My dad said, "Don't tell me how to treat my daughter!" and hung up on him! My fiance tried to call back, but he didn't answer. Later my mother called and said, "Let's just forget this ever happened."
I am upset about all of this, but also proud that my fiance stood up for me. I just fear that there will be animosity next month when the wedding comes around. Any advice on how to smooth things over? I still am appalled at the way my father behaved and the things he said. He never gave me any indication that he didn't like my fiance, and my fiance has never done anything to hurt me or my family, or anyone for that matter. He's never been anything but nice, except this time when he felt I was being attacked by them.
Thanks for listening!