dealing with toxic, unstable (former) friend
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|Mon, 08-29-2011 - 11:43am|
I became friends with a coworker earlier this year-- at first, she seemed like a really cool person, fun to hang out with, but after we took a girl's weekend trip together to a spa I realized that she's very unstable and not someone I want to be around, at all. To make a long story short, she was very abusive toward everyone we came in contact with during our trip, from the shuttle bus driver (telling him he should be wishing all of us good morning) to the waiters at the restaurants (yelling at the woman because she put ice in her drink) to a woman sitting behind her in a cafe who didn't move her chair in enough, to at times, me as well, snapping at me over trivial things such as forgetting my room key once, for example. I almost decided to book room for myself to get away from her because I didn't want her nastiness to ruin my weekend anymore than it had.
At the end of it all, she thought the trip was wonderful (she's a narcissist who insists everyone is jealous of her) and has been trying to push me to book another with her. Really, I'd rather travel with Satan. Since then, I've been doing everything I can to avoid her, but she won't take a message. She's really bad with criticism so I know if I told her I don't think we can be friends she'd probably send me streams of emails about why I'm a terrible person and need to appreciate her, who do I think I am, etc.
Really, I just wish she'd take a hint and go away, but she won't. Does anyone have advice on how to extract a person like this from one's life? Interestingly, she won't call-- all she does is email and text (that's how she's been comminicating with me for months now) so you'd think at this point she'd stop, and the last thing I need is to get into a fight with her over email. Maybe I should just block her? We weren't even friends for six months but she seems to think we have some amazing connection. After our trip she called me her new best friend. Maybe she's a sociopath? I get the sense she doesn't have a lot of friends, that she just runs through people and tries to find willing victims to take her abuse.