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|Mon, 07-28-2003 - 2:14pm|
Dh and I have been traveling the 12 hours round trip since last October when he became ill. At first I spent 2 weeks at a time caring for him, then the family got together and we split the time better between us. I now spend 5 to 7 days a month caring for him.
Yesterday we were informed that my DH siblings want everyone there this weekend for a family conference on what to do next. Dad does not want outside help, nor does he want to be placed in a "home". We did at one time hire sonmeone to help out but things happen and one sister was causing too much of a conflict, another not paying her share and so on!
Here is the problem, our DD, is expecting her 2nd child in 9 weeks. Due to major complications in the pregnancy, the doctors are monitoring day by day and we anticipating that they will deliver the baby by c section within the next week if not earlier. So we will be needed at her home soon. Then to be blunt, all the traveling, helping pay for dads care, extra motel rooms and food and generally having to handle so much, we are very strapped finaicially.
We just cannot afford two different trips. If the doctors decide to deliver the baby, what funds we now have will have to be used to get to DD. If we go to Dads and they decide to take the baby, then we will be in another state and it will cost more. Our first thought was to split up, I would go to DD and Dh to his Dads, but this baby will be a 31 week premmie (just like her big brother) and I know DH will want to be there.
We have already exhausted our savings, taken out a loan with the bank to help with Dads care and we cannot do much more. any ideas, suggestions. has anyone else had to deal with something like this before???