Desperatly need sum advice on what to do... :(
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|Sun, 10-30-2011 - 5:57pm|
I'm in a situation and I really don't know how to deal with it? I'll try to make it as short as possible. I have a difficult relationship with my family(bros, sis, mother). I am the youngest child & i was adopted. I grew up in a very disfunctional family. I went through things that no child should go through. My relationship with my mother & sister has always been rough. I really never had a relationship with my brothers being that they are so much older then me and moved out of the hs when i was young. To get to the point i will just jump to wuts going on now. I am married with children of my own. Ever since i got married, i never lived near my family because of my dh job requiring us to move alot. Through the yrs I became more & more distanced from my family. It has gotten to the point where they have become toxic to me. My brothers treat me like i'm the one causing problems in the family and i'm the one who doesn't comunicate with them. One brother has really hurt me with the things he has said to me. To make it short, i feel that in order to keep my sanity i have to cut ties with them. The things they have said to me has caused my dh to want nothing to do with them. My niece is getting married the day after thanksgiving & she wanted all of her cousins to be in her wedding. Well, I live far away & would have to purchase 6 plane tickets to get there & can't afford it. My mom calls me every day asking if i'm coming to the wedding. I told her i can't afford to come. She keeps calling me trying to guilt me into going by saying stuff like it wouldn't be the same without you here. Honestly, with the way i've been treated by them these past couple yrs, I really don't want to see them. I am so devistated by the things they've said to me & have done to me. I told my mom what one of my brothers has said to me & she just says that's the way he is. She makes excuses for all of their behavior. I've tried over and over to hold out an olive branch but only to get slapped with it. I'm at the point now where my feelings are numb when it comes to them. I wish it wasn't the case but they pushed me away. My question is at what point does someone finally say enough? When do you cut off contact with family that has been so toxic to you? I'm in shock that things have gotten as bad as they have. I just don't know what to do anymore?