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|Mon, 12-22-2003 - 3:43pm|
You see, I am 33 and my mother is 61. I am happily married (for 1 year) and is living just 1 hour away. She calls several times a day/weeks. She even calls me at work where I can't take personal calls. She never asks how I'm doing or what I'm up to. When she does, she doesn't respond with 'that's great' or anything "normal". She just goes, "uh huh", & then immediatly changes the subject to her. It ALWAYS goes back to her. It feels like she doesn't listen to what I have to say at all. I can say that we are on Mars, & she'll gloss right over it with "But anyway, about me...."
She also, in my opinion, romantasizing our relationship. She crys a lot on the phone and tells me way way too much how all she wants to do is listen to my voice. For xmas, she told me all she wants is to look at me. "All I want for Christmas is you." That's a direct quote.
This is just the tip of the iceberg. And it is pushing me further away from everytime she calls to tell me over & over & over that she loves me. (I kid you not, she tells me she loves me in 1 call, like 3-5 times).
I KNOW she loves me, but when she says it sooo much, I start not believing it. It is really creeping me out.
I strongly believe that she has depression. But she swears she doesn't. She is an emotional eater and spender. My parents do not have a typical loving relationship. All they do is scream at each other. My father in law, who is a manic depressent, believes she's a suicide waiting to happen.
She recently told my mother in law that her doesn't want to visit her and doesn't want to talk to her. She told me that she 'know' I have a very demanding job and that she understands why I don't visit or call a lot.
Is there any support group out their for people like me? I need to get some personal help with how do deal with such a mother.
I am truly loosing it with her. I am at the point where I don't want to have children because of how she is.