Do I just let her go?

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Registered: 11-05-2008
Do I just let her go?
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Thu, 04-28-2011 - 12:28am

Please read my previous post, "Shocked," for the background information.

Over Christmas this past year, my former best friend seemed to want to rekindle things.

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Registered: 02-22-2011
Mon, 05-02-2011 - 1:08am

Yes, I am.

The voice of doubt in my head is the same voice that believes I don't deserve to be happy, that I can't be truly happy.

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Registered: 10-14-2003
Fri, 04-29-2011 - 6:47pm

Hi ls,

Thank you for opening up as you have.

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Registered: 02-22-2011
Fri, 04-29-2011 - 2:46pm

Paradigmshifter:

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Registered: 10-14-2003
Thu, 04-28-2011 - 9:19pm

Okay, I've been watching and reading this thread and I've gone back to the thread on here previously and have read those links.

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Registered: 02-14-2004
Thu, 04-28-2011 - 8:59pm

Since your story of how your fiance treats you has changed...sometimes you say that 9 years ago he threw a ball towards you and that's all...other times, you say you are questioning the relationship because he's verbally abusive.

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Registered: 06-06-2001
Thu, 04-28-2011 - 8:30pm
I don't think that mental illness and immaturity are all overcome in a couple of months. I didn't suggest that you leave your fiance, but you've questioned that fairly recently yourself.

http://forums.ivillage.com/t5/Explore-iVillage/Do-I-leave-just-for-the-sake-of-leaving/td-p/116951749/highlight/true

You don't have to take any advice you're given or agree with everyone that posts repsonses to your questions, but it doesn't help you to read negativity into them either.

Liz


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Registered: 02-22-2011
Thu, 04-28-2011 - 7:13pm

I think there's been a lot of immaturity in our relationship since we've

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Registered: 06-06-2001
Thu, 04-28-2011 - 6:42pm

Sure, let her go, but you have posted here before about more than the rubber toy being thrown.

Liz


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Registered: 11-13-2009
Thu, 04-28-2011 - 2:32pm
I can't edit today, either. What I meant to say is alot of people do something stupid in anger on a very rare occasion (like bust a plate), that hurts nobody and isn't repeated. Hope that makes sense!

 

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Registered: 11-13-2009
Thu, 04-28-2011 - 2:25pm
I remember your story well. (I once again can't make paragraphs, so hang with me.) Your fiance was rightfully very upset and worried. He reacted badly. I believe you when you say nothing like him throwing a ball has happened in 9 years. I'd be surprised if not a quite a few people on this board have busted a plate or something in anger. <<< Your friend has way overreacted and been no friend at all. Her constant going on and on about it to others is just weird, even if someone were involved in a terribly abusive relationship. I've had friends that were in pretty emotionally/alcoholic SO's relationships, but I didn't spread it all around. I cut ties with one friend, but I'd spent around 25 years listening to true stories of abuse. And her constant defending him. << In your situation, she's immature and not a friend.

 

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