Does this make me mean??
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|Sat, 12-04-2010 - 10:19pm|
I have quite a large family that is literally spread all over the Western Hemisphere. From Europe to South America and of course to North America. They are for the most part cool people but a lot of what they do is so hypocritical to me. There is so much dysfunction it's quite unbelievable. I'll list some stories so you can see what I mean.
One of my uncles was married when he was in his late 20s and had two children with his wife. They later divorced in their 40s. She went off to marry someone else and then my uncle became somewhat of an alcoholic. He met someone so much younger than him and married her. He was in his early 50s and she was in her early 30s. They now have a young child together. His son from the previous marriage had a child as well and his son's daughter is older than his own daughter.
My mom has 10 brothers and sisters and they had a farm growing up that my grandfather would take care of while the family was in the city. He would work at the farm during the day and then come back home at night. They didn't know what he would do sometimes. Well a few years ago mind you my grandfather passed the year I was born 25 years ago we come to find out through my grandmother that he had a child with another woman while he was out on the farm. She apparently never was angry about it and didn't do anything about it.
There's more but I'll stop there.
So, I don't really like hanging around my extended family b/c well they can be quite judgemental and ignorant about others. They're very Catholic and traditional but a lot of what they do is very non-Catholic and very non-traditional but they snub their noses at people who do things like what they do. It's so hypocritical!
I go to Boston a lot to visit my best friend and am now planning on moving there once I finish school next semester. I have 3 family members who live an hour away from Boston but I never visit them when I'm there. I do this b/c they're quite scandalous and again hypocritical. Recently I found out that my cousin who is in her late 30s who had a daughter who is now 18 is pregnant and her daughter is also pregnant. My cousin also found out she has uterine cancer. My second cousin was previously pregnant but had a miscarriage and was kicked out of the house by my cousin b/c of being pregnant. Now they're both pregnant! And they don't want anything really to do with each other. Meanwhile my aunt the mother of my cousin lives there and has no clue that her daughter who is pregnant again has cancer. I just don't get this at all! I always wonder do they not know about contraception??? Maybe it's the Catholic thing? I donno.
So a lot of my extended family whenever I tell them I plan on moving to Boston they're like oh good you'll be living nearby my aunt, cousin and second cousin. And I'm just thinking umm they live an hour away and I have friends in the city anyways. I don't like being around them or my extended family. And I seriously don't think that I will be around them much when I am living there. Does that make me mean or snobby? I just don't want drama in my life. I try to avoid it as much as humanly possible. I'm not saying I'm perfect by any means but I don't go around pretending to be holier than though and kicking people out of the house when they need my help. But again does that make me mean to avoid my family?