Drinking with Kids thread got me wondering...

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Drinking with Kids thread got me wondering...
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Tue, 03-08-2011 - 11:02am

Reading the responses on the drinking with kids thread was very interesting.

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Registered: 03-30-2007
Tue, 03-08-2011 - 6:43pm

Know what they call parents that don't talk to their kids about sex?

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*Grandma and Grandpa.

Do you live in the USA?

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Registered: 03-06-2011
Tue, 03-08-2011 - 10:08pm

Interesting conversation. I would provide my kids condoms. It's better to educate the kids about all this stuff instead of just leaving it up to them to learn on their own. My parents were very open about sex, drugs and alcohol. They didn't provide us with condoms. We also lived in the boonies, so we couldn't just go to the store and buy some. We had to "just say no" when we didn't have any. One girl called me lame and talked about me in school. It was hard to live down, but my dad told me I did the right thing.

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Registered: 02-14-2004
Wed, 03-09-2011 - 1:35am

I'm enjoying the responses!

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Registered: 02-25-2002
Wed, 03-09-2011 - 7:34am

Let's see....my son is 22...at some point in high school, when he started *dating*....I just bought a box of condoms and left them on his desk. Without getting into too much detail, we've always had good communication, not just about safe sex, but also about how to treat a young woman.

My daughters are teenagers. When each became involved in a committed, monogamous relationship, we took a trip to the doctor for the full female workup and both went on birth control. I also provide condoms and stress that they use both. With sex, it only takes one time to have lifelong consequences. Also, I love our doctor, she's very open and spends a lot of time with the kids, not just doing the exam, but talking to them, backing up what I've tried to teach them all along.

 

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Registered: 10-14-2003
Wed, 03-09-2011 - 9:44am

If I ever have kids, I will be very open and educational with them about sex as I am there to be their guardian in life as well as a teacher (and NOT their friend).

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Registered: 06-16-1998
Wed, 03-09-2011 - 11:11am

"Do you feel that people who don't provide condoms for their kids ALSO don't discuss sex with them?"

Not necessarily. I think that most parents discuss sex to some degree but many feel that providing condoms would look like condoning sex.

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Registered: 03-06-2011
Wed, 03-09-2011 - 2:21pm

Funny stories about the banana. Your son saying his comment and the dumb bimbo who put the freakin' condom on a banana instead of on her bf! I bet the teacher had a good laugh when the girl's mother went off on her.

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Registered: 06-16-1998
Wed, 03-09-2011 - 2:43pm

And the friends may not have accurate information. I had a bf who had it really wrong on which part of the cycle a girl could get pregnant. All my mom told me was that "good girls don't do it" without telling me what "it" entailed LOL. Today's kids might be getting more information in school, but even that should be more about the physiology and science of it. Its the parents job to teach the emotional ramifications and the family's values.

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Thu, 03-10-2011 - 5:26pm

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Registered: 02-14-2004
Thu, 03-10-2011 - 7:40pm

Now that I started this conversation and y'all have had a chance to respond, I'll give my opinion on the whole condom thing.