Drinking with Kids thread got me wondering...

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Drinking with Kids thread got me wondering...
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Tue, 03-08-2011 - 11:02am

Reading the responses on the drinking with kids thread was very interesting.

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Registered: 11-24-2004
Tue, 03-08-2011 - 12:37pm

I would because kids are going to do it anyway. I wouldn't want my teenaged daughter to become preggers and I wouldn't want my teenaged son to be fathering a kid. I don't approve of teenagers having sex, but the reality of it is, if I don't make it easier for them, it is not a deterrent. Bigger problems could result.

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Registered: 07-29-2002
Tue, 03-08-2011 - 1:26pm

I would rather my kids be safer than undereducated

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Tue, 03-08-2011 - 1:40pm
On another board there was a mother with multiple teens at once, and she said she put a basket of condoms under the sink in the kids' bathroom. Told them they were there, and let it be unless she had to refill it I can't remember if she had to or not. (and of course she had already had the talks over and over with them.)

Anyway, I thought that was an interesting way to do it. Something I might have done had I had that many teens.

 

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Tue, 03-08-2011 - 1:41pm

Interesting question. I didn't provide condoms and I don't remember what we might have said to ds about that. I mostly let dh handle that topic with ds for the embarrassment factor and I don't remember him telling me that he had bought any for ds. I handled it with dd, and what I told her was that I didn't condone teen sex for a few reasons but I realized that it could happen, so if she was going to become sexually active to come to me first and we would get her on birth control. When she told me she was ready I took her to Planned Parenthood and they gave her a big bag of condoms in addition to BC pills and told her she could always have as many free condoms as she wanted.

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Registered: 11-13-2009
Tue, 03-08-2011 - 1:55pm

My mother's tactic was to threaten me against having sex, telling me if I got pregnant she'd drag me so fast for an abortion and I wouldn't have an choice, digging my underwear out of the laundry after I came home from a date (and yep, she found semen) even taping things to my bedroom mirror. The only one I can recall today (with my bad memory!) was an Ann Landers column about a woman putting b.c. pills in her teen daughters' orange juice, and said she might do that to me, too.

One time she found a douche bag in my bedroom at 15 (sp? and do they even have those anymore?). She was positive I'd used it after sex to prevent pregnancy, and probably my best friend did, too. Everytime I'd walk into a room where she was, she'd come up and slap me in the face. I got fed up, saddled my horse, and ran away. Maybe I'll finish that story another time, haha.

Anyway, I thought I could only get pregnant while on my period.

It's a miracle I never got pregnant in high school. Somebody must have been watching out for me!

And I probably would have been killed if she'd found condoms in my room.

(edited to change "sex" with "pregnancy")

 

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Registered: 07-29-2002
Tue, 03-08-2011 - 3:05pm

I stayed a virgin well into college for the simple fact that I was petrified of getting pregnant.

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Tue, 03-08-2011 - 3:07pm

Good question!

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Registered: 11-13-2009
Tue, 03-08-2011 - 3:24pm
I was a virgin when my mother started all that crazy stuff!

After awhile, one starts thinking, what the hell?





 

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Registered: 03-30-2007
Tue, 03-08-2011 - 3:42pm

I had a very dear friend that died from AIDS.

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Registered: 02-04-2010
Tue, 03-08-2011 - 4:16pm

I have 3 teenagers and my daughter recently got very drunk at

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