dueling daugter's in law
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|Sun, 06-08-2003 - 10:39am|
My two DIL's appear to have it out for each other. I do not know if it is jealousy and honest dislike of each other or what, but it has begun to affect all of our family.
My two son's get along great, and I get along with each DIL when it is one on one, but put the two together and it is a nightmare, they do not come out right and snip at each other they do it "nicely", if you want to call it that. The most recent example was last night, everyone was over for a BBQ, the oldest DIL told her two boy they could go swimming in the pool. They are 11 and 9. My only granddaughter (DD of DIL #2) is 7. She did not ask permission instead jumped in the pool with out any ones knowlegde. DIL #2 caught her and went ballistic about it, yelling that she did not care that the boys had permssion from their Mom, her Mom cared about her and did not want her to drown, maybe the boys Mom did not care if her kids drowned!! Needless, to say DIL #1 took offense, told my DS to pack and up and they headed home.
This has become a ritual, if one gives me or DH a gift, the other tries to top it. If we have a get together they try to talk over each other and get louder and louder. We are now seeing the grandkids beginning to bicker at each other. Put all the kids together for a few minutes and you pretty much know what each DIL has been saying about each other in private.
Any suggestions???? My Dh and I are almost at the point of stopping all family get togethers. BTW....we have sat each DIL down in private and discussed this. They both blame the other, and deny they are "doing anything".