At the end of my rope with sister, please help

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Registered: 05-23-2011
At the end of my rope with sister, please help
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Mon, 05-23-2011 - 4:28am

I have decided to edit this because I don't like to have information out there about me and my family, but thanks so much for the helpful replies. It's really helped get me pointed in the right direction:)

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Registered: 12-16-2008
Mon, 05-23-2011 - 10:09am

redcrush - I didn't read your entire post, but have summed up the problem as your sister having problems, dumping on you continuously without making any step toward change, and you're fed up.

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Registered: 07-29-2002
Mon, 05-23-2011 - 12:02pm

I think you are right to simply cut her off, when she starts in on her husband.

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Registered: 05-23-2011
Tue, 05-24-2011 - 8:57am
Thank you Irish tea for your response.
Your succinct summation pretty much hit the nail on the head. She dumps on me continuously while making no steps toward change.

You're right, I need to take control of my side of things. I do believe she gets some sick need met by the RL, and if that is the case, there's nothing I can do to help. I think it's time for me to commit to myself and make some verrry clear boundaries.

Thank you.
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Registered: 05-23-2011
Tue, 05-24-2011 - 9:09am

Thank you I&AMom:)
That is so validating to hear, and uplifting.
Sometimes I feel like it is my job to do every last little thing, because I am her sister, and this guy treats her bad, they're short on $$$, etc etc, but lately I feel like, I just don't care anymore!
Truly, I feel she has done exactly like you said, chosen not to end this RL, so I don't want to be subjected to her crazy world.
She's kind of a bottomless pit. So yes, I do think I need to put my foot down.

Thank you for your response, it's been very helpful.