etiquette question

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etiquette question
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Wed, 12-29-2010 - 12:39pm

Hi all

Is it disrespectiful to address a card or invitation to just one person in the house and say it is for everyone in the household?

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Registered: 11-13-2009
Wed, 12-29-2010 - 1:18pm
I think it is fine, you should chill, and be happy you received the card or invitation.

There must be more to this story. Say it's so.

 

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Registered: 06-06-2001
Wed, 12-29-2010 - 1:28pm

"This person is aware that I find this disrespectiful but she continues anyway saying it is not rude and it is perfectly ok."

Did you already tell the person that you think it's disrespectful? In any case, I agree that it's not a big deal. Yes, it would be nice of the person to address the card to whomever is intended to receive it, but I still don't think it's outrageous to address it solely to you with the hopes that you share it with your family.

Honestly, I don't think many of the cards that my parents got for Christmas were necessarily thought of by the senders or my parents as being of much importance for me or my brothers, and as a kid, I certainly didn't care if the cards included my name or were addressed only to my parent. While my boyfriend's parents send cards listing both of our names, I wouldn't be offended if they sent the cards directly to him.

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Registered: 06-23-2003
Wed, 12-29-2010 - 3:19pm

Sounds to me like she's deliberately slighting you. If she were addressing other envelopes the same, I'd put it down to some quirk of hers. It's rude of her though to not acknowledge you on the envelope while acknowledging your husband. An exception might be if she only knew your husband, so addressed it to him and family. For example, my husband's boss sent out xmas cards to employees and addressed the card to my husband only as I don't know anyone from his work. But that's not the case here.

You mention she's divorced and drops the card off in person. Am I right in guessing that you suspect that she's after your husband? If so, I think you have reason to be concerned.

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Wed, 12-29-2010 - 4:01pm
I don't think it's disrespectful. Lazy, but not disrespectful. Do you have a hunch that this chickie may like your DH
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Registered: 11-13-2009
Wed, 12-29-2010 - 6:51pm
Well I guess there are a few pi##ed off people at me this Christmas.

 

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Registered: 06-23-2003
Wed, 12-29-2010 - 6:58pm
Why do you say that, Cat?
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Registered: 11-13-2009
Wed, 12-29-2010 - 7:11pm
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Registered: 11-13-2009
Wed, 12-29-2010 - 7:21pm

So.... I was backspacing to edit out a sentence and it just posted by itself.

 

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Wed, 12-29-2010 - 9:16pm

To the OP:

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Registered: 11-24-2001
Wed, 12-29-2010 - 9:33pm

I think it depends on the situation. We used to get Christmas cards from my BIL and SIL addressed hubby last name and me last

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