Ex husband issues.....
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Ex husband issues.....
| Mon, 08-01-2011 - 9:15pm |
Okay, I need help to sort thru my feeling insecure & inferior, when it comes to my ex (my dd's father).....I need help with not feeling guilty and 'why' I am feeling guilty?!
My ex, paid child support, per divorce agreement fine, for 7 years. When, we got divorced, we agreed on an amount, then each year, he was making more & more money......I am not greedy, so I never went to modify my support, to get more, in seven years of him making more and more money.
Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend
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You should always go thru the courts for child support - always - no exceptions.
Lastly, as a mom myself, I don't think I could ever send my child to stay somewhere that she wasnt being properly cared for. If those visits aren't court ordered, why on earth would you send your child somewhere that meals aren't guaranteed?
I read your other post too, I can tell that you want the best for her. I get that he's her "father" (yes, I think my use of quotes is funny here, lol.) but if he's not acting like it, or interested in being one, maybe you figure out a way to live without him. My guess is that you and DD would be better off in the long run.
Look at this way, with an example, if you will.... (not a really good example, haha, but it's the first thing I thought of!)
About 8 years ago DH got laid off from the best paying job he'd ever had, basically more than we ever dreamed of. Instead of putting off house payments or trying to get them reduced (they were pretty high considering all), I began doubling them. I knew the money would be running out and then we'd be in trouble. We were so close to having it paid off. And we did it. (we were dirt poor after that, but that elephant was off our backs.)
Your ex could have paid ahead while his salary was moving up, put child support into a savings account, whatever he needed to do to ensure that child support was paid. He didn't.
Too bad, so sad.
Try not to let conversations veer onto this topic. That way he can't make you feel guilty. If he starts again, say the doorbell's ringing, or a fire ant(s) is biting you. Everybody will let you off the phone when you tell them that.
Yes, yes, thank you!
Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend
Well, I 'mostly' send her, because SHE wants to go visit.......she is 12 now, and I am (more or less) letting her decide.
Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend
ooooo, good point!!
Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend
Was her loss of a couple of pounds really unhealthy?
Liz
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Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend
Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend
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