Extended family

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Registered: 04-08-2012
Extended family
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Mon, 04-09-2012 - 3:59am

I have no siblings or children of my own and am single.

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Registered: 09-17-2005
Mon, 04-09-2012 - 5:51am
Maybe you just came on too strong? It seems strange to me to suddenly want to be close with a cousin when you never were before - like you don't have a family of your own so you expected to just step into theirs? You can't force a relationship like that, which is what it sounds like you may have been trying to do and that may have made them feel uncomfortable. It's understandable that the rejection hurts but if they are not interested in forming a close relationship, that is their choice. I think they were trying to be polite about it but you couldn't take the hint.

You say you have no siblings or children and you're single - what about friends? It sounds like you're kind of lonely, which is understandable, but they have no obligation to bring you into their family because of it.
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Mon, 04-09-2012 - 4:48pm

I do have friends who I see often, but I suppose I wanted some blood ties.

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Registered: 01-22-2004
Mon, 04-09-2012 - 11:38pm

Who on earth knows what this people have in their minds?

Probably they think that if you have never had a close relationship, why to bother

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Registered: 04-08-2012
Sun, 04-15-2012 - 8:38pm

Yeah I will forget about them as they are not worth it.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 04-24-2012 - 3:07pm

I think the fact is that parents of 3 small children probably are very busy and it doesn't mean they are rejecting you--as a single person w/ no children, your life is different.