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Wed, 04-11-2012 - 1:40pm

Do most people think FB is a good thing or a bad thing when it comes to relationships? In my experience, although it is a good way to keep in touch with friends that live far away, it actually alienates us from those people in the same city when the only time you ever talk to them is on FB, and not in person or even on the phone anymore. It is making even the phone extinct. So if you're not on Facebook, it's like you don't even exist, because that is getting to be the only way people talk at all- even family. And even when we are with family/friends, are face is stuck down in our phones. We are forgetting how to relate in person. Thoughts? Agree or disagree?

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Registered: 01-30-2007
In reply to: mommyinal
Thu, 04-12-2012 - 11:08am

I was wondering what you were going to say about Facebook.

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Registered: 10-14-2003
In reply to: mommyinal
Wed, 04-11-2012 - 6:37pm

Thanks for reminding me to clean out my Facebook friends list, lol!

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Registered: 06-16-1998
In reply to: mommyinal
Wed, 04-11-2012 - 6:14pm

In my personal experience FB is a good thing. It allows me to know what out of town family and friends are up to. I also use it to communicate with some local friends, its useful in arranging get-togethers with a small group because we can all see the thread of messages about when each is available to meet, etc.

In general though I would agree that the constant connection to an electronic device is making people forget how to relate in person, especially for younger people who didn't have a lot of years of in-person relationships before the advances in communications technology. Many of us have seen a group of people in a restaurant or somewhere, they're sitting together but none of them is talking to each other because they are all looking at their phones. To older people it often seems rude, like they're ignoring their friends, but to them its normal. For some people its texting instead of FB but its essentially the same thing, making most communications non-verbal in as few characters as possible.

You could try to contact your friends via phone rather than FB and see if that helps.

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Registered: 02-14-2004
In reply to: mommyinal
Wed, 04-11-2012 - 4:26pm

I agree with what you're saying.

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Registered: 02-23-2010
In reply to: mommyinal
Wed, 04-11-2012 - 3:38pm
In my world I disagree. I have healthy relationships on and off Facebook. For me Facebook allows me to keep in touch with friends I would not otherwise stay in touch with. My offline relationships are separate.

If you're experiencing friends who fail to communicate other than Facebook then they aren't real friends.

San