Family. Bah-Humbug!!!

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Registered: 03-30-2007
Family. Bah-Humbug!!!
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Thu, 12-23-2010 - 12:28pm

So here I sit. ready to just up and leave. My family is falling apart. I was on FB the other night and my Niece was on there. Her and her MOM have had a rough year. I was trying to encourage her. She was down in the dump. She was talking about how much she enjoyed taking care of her Niece. I put up a comment about I only have 2 nieces and one Nephew. THat she has always been special to me cause she was born the day before my B'day. End of story. Right? Hell no. Today My SIL put up a kind of nasty message about step kids. Well let's see all my step nephews are adults. Never been around them Step-niece is 17 and live until recently (like 3 months ago) lived with her Dad. Not my Brother and her. Was talking to Grandson on the phone and my phone was beeping. Grandson is feeling sorry for himself. I was trying to cheer him up. Hang up and listen to a tyraid from SIL about her DD. I barely know the girl. She hasn't been in my life. Plus my youngest son has a hair up his hinney. Other son is over-seas. DD live about 1200 miles away. I'm broke, can't even afford to put up my tree and now I'm just PO'ed.

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Registered: 11-13-2009
Thu, 12-23-2010 - 12:58pm

Sorry, Hearto.

Even if she felt she had a reason to be offended, to go off on you over that was inconsiderate.

 

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Registered: 03-30-2007
Thu, 12-23-2010 - 1:11pm
SIL and Brother have only been married for 5? years. I know her kids, but barely. The girl is 17 years old. It's not like she 10 or younger. Heck, my two older kids were step children. They never were ever acknowledged. But then neither was my son. My DLH's family was wierd. I never ever, for a lack of a better word, cared that DLH family never mentioned them. They were my kids. Heck their own father never wanted anything to do with them. Plus I've told SIL that anytime I ever invite her and Brother for something all of her family is automatically included. I've told her this hundreds of times.
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Registered: 11-24-2004
Thu, 12-23-2010 - 3:33pm

She doesn't consider your children, but you're supposed to consider hers? What a hypocrite. I know what it's like to have newbies in the family with kids who are tweens / teens and young adults. These kids never show up to family functions and the parents are wondering why we don't know them as well as our own neices / nephews / cousin's kids. Nowadays, parents even let their tween-age kids stay home.

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Registered: 03-30-2007
Thu, 12-23-2010 - 3:48pm
No, no. She includes my kids. But my kids are adults. My second husbands family never recognized my children. Two would have been their step. The third one, their blood. Heck, I was a step kid. My first step-father 's family didn't even know I was alive. But I had other relative that I cared about. For some reason my SIL has been acting strange for the last 6 months. I have no clue what her problem is. It has me pretty upset that she would put something like tha
gingersnapelle wrote:

She doesn't consider your children, but you're supposed to consider hers? What a hypocrite. I know what it's like to have newbies in the family with kids who are tweens / teens and young adults. These kids never show up to family functions and the parents are wondering why we don't know them as well as our own neices / nephews / cousin's kids. Nowadays, parents even let their tween-age kids stay home.

t on Niece's FB. It's her Step daughter for cryimng out loud. I was just trying to make her feel better.
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Registered: 06-23-2003
Thu, 12-23-2010 - 3:54pm

(((ohearto)))
I don't know what to tell you. Some people enjoy upsetting other people. Your SIL sounds like one to me. I think your xmas gift to yourself should be to post another nice thing on your niece's FB page and think about your SIL's head spinning over it. Oh wait that would be naughty and Santa wouldn't visit you. ;)

edited for clarity.

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Registered: 11-24-2004
Thu, 12-23-2010 - 4:05pm

That is weird that she would put that on SD's page. People can be pretty strange when it comes to FB. I don't write much on there. You never know who's going to be ticked off. I find when I post something, I have to write something like "oh, and you and you and you and you..." or someone's going to come out of the woodwork and say, "what about ME?" or "what about so and so?"

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