Just wondering...did you ever spend the holidays with your relatives when your girls were growing up?
JMHO I think you need to email this to your children:
I agree that you need to let your kids know how you feel.
I am the adult child of divorce. So this hit a nerve for me. I always felt like I was put in the middle. Like, no matter what I did, I was going to hurt someone's feelings(even though they never pressured me).
To answer your questions...no, we did not spend holidays with my family as they were too far away.
Yeah... I think with 4 kids, over 5 years, one of them could have spent a holiday with you.