Family issues with sleeping at boyfriend's house

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Registered: 12-01-2010
Family issues with sleeping at boyfriend's house
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Wed, 12-01-2010 - 4:34pm

I'm 21 and I've been sleeping over at my 25-year old boyfriend's house the weekend for the past 3 weekends.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-02-2008
Wed, 12-01-2010 - 8:11pm

The short answer to your question is...NO, there is no way for them to see it your way.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-11-2008
Thu, 12-02-2010 - 12:24am
salt wrote:

Is there a way to make my parents to see the situation in my perspective and perhaps be more open-minded?

No. Not while you're under their roof. If you move out of the house (even to move in with him), your parents will probably still be fuming mad for awhile. It will most likely take them several years to get over the living situation. But when you are out from under their roof, you won't care as much what their opinion is.

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Registered: 01-20-2005
Thu, 12-02-2010 - 1:49am

My oldest DD is 28.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-20-2005
Thu, 12-02-2010 - 1:51am

My oldest DD is 28.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-24-2004
Thu, 12-02-2010 - 12:31pm

Hi Salt,

I used to want to do the things my older sisters were doing. One lived with a boyfriend. The problem was, I was still living at home. Best to wait until you graduate AND find a good job, before moving out. I know too many people who moved out in the name of freedom and they regretted it. They still had student loans to pay off and didn't get the big job their college instructors talked about.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-14-2003
Thu, 12-02-2010 - 1:25pm

I wonder if the answers would be different if she were paying room and board?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2009
Thu, 12-02-2010 - 2:03pm
<< I wonder if the answers would be different if she were paying room and board? >>

I kind of doubt it. Not everyone that pays room and board are allowed free range to bring adults of the other sex to stay the night. The rules are set out beforehand. So I imagine it would be the same for parents so entrenched in their beliefs.

But again, that's just my opinion!

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-24-2004
Thu, 12-02-2010 - 2:05pm
paradigmshifter wrote:

I wonder if the answers would be different if she were paying room and board?

My answer wouldn't be different, because I was paying room and board. My mum would simply tell me to find somewhere else to live for $300.00 per month.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2009
Thu, 12-02-2010 - 2:15pm

How long have you been dating?

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-14-2003
Thu, 12-02-2010 - 2:18pm

I agree that bringing people into the house and having sex, etc., is a no-no.

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