Family loyalty and consideration

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Family loyalty and consideration
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Fri, 12-10-2010 - 10:08am

I hope this is the right place for this post. I'm new to this.

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Fri, 12-10-2010 - 11:21am

Wow Jen, Yes, that is a slap in the face; "BigTime!" :smileymad:

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Fri, 12-10-2010 - 12:00pm
thank you for your response. He's done so many things similar, but this one takes the cake, that we were starting to think "we" were in the wrong with our thoughts. I just don't have a good feeling on this one, it may change the dynamics of our family even more now :(
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Fri, 12-10-2010 - 1:15pm

I'm with you and Grammalu...what he's doing is a slap in the face to your dad's memory and your mom and rest of the family. Especially since he capitalized on your dad's good name to help himself along. Sounds selfish.

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Sat, 12-11-2010 - 7:29am
Thank you. I was right about not having a good feeling about it. His wife emailed me reaming me out because I gave her the name of 2 orthodontist that my dentist friend told me about (my brother asked me if I knew of anyone-I used to work for a dentist so I was aware of some good and bad ones). Told me she was sorry my mother was a little upset with her. I responded by telling her that I was only forwarding those names at my brother's request and that since she wanted to ream me out I might as well tell her that I thought what they did was total betrayal to my mom and my dead father and that I was sure if it was done to hers she'd feel the same.
So I am sure I"m going to get a call from my brother screaming at me. Sad but I don't regret telling her that, they needed to hear it.
This sister in law is very voistrous (sp?) and holds nothing back so I'm sure I'm in for some trouble.
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Sat, 12-11-2010 - 8:25am

Jen, You bet your sweet patootie that if the shoe were on the other foot, SIL would be just as

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Sat, 12-11-2010 - 6:38pm
Well she reamd me out again today in another email, making it look like "I" took it the wrong way. There's no taking this the wrong way, you were wrong, you had no regard for my mother or deceased dad. Period.
I did tell my mom about what was said (actually showed her) and she is happy I stood up for her and spoke my mind.
I am a wimp by nature, back down so I don't have confrontation but I"m getting too old to worry about that anymore. It was wrong plain and simple.
Uggh
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Sun, 12-12-2010 - 9:42am

I'm so proud of you, Jen. There is absolutely no justification for their picking out this jerk of a Dentist. Even Stevie Wonder could see that!

They know they are disrespecting the family and more so your dear father.

Karma has a way of biting people in the arse. Just wait, it'll happen.

She probably thought you'd cower to her and now that you spoke up for what's right, she's left to stew in her/their own juices of

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Sun, 12-12-2010 - 10:19am
I agree.

OP: I am also appalled that they would show so little consideration. Sheesh!

 

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Sun, 12-12-2010 - 5:30pm

"Karma has a way of biting people in the arse. Just wait, it'll happen."

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Sun, 12-12-2010 - 9:00pm
You are absolutely right when you say she probably thought I'd cower to her. She's emailed me more, same crap but I have to let it go now. She knows she's wrong, her and my brother went to visit my mom today to 'smooth' things over. Maybe they'll "get it".

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