Family Situation--Need Advice Pls!
||Tue, 09-09-2003 - 12:36pm
My husband's family has a lakehouse. We have never used it that much because we just don't have time. Our son turned 21 and by the rules set up by my mother in law he can have a key. He went there in June for a weekend with a friend. Now my brother in law says they determined that he stole $60 or so in change that was kept there to play cards with. My BIL also says there have been problems before when we have been there as a family that bed pillows and baseball cards turned up missing but they never said anything. Numerous family members and a cleaning lady are in and out of the place and we can't quite figure out how they determined that we are responsible. My husband confronted his Mother who said she told my son she hid the quarters since painters were coming in and he made a joke that if he found them they were his. She admits he was joking but when they turned up missing she immediately thought of him. Nice, huh? He has worked with money and in situations where he was responsible for clothing merchandise. We always have money and valuables here. Never have any of us ever been accused of taking anything. And if we were going to steal, wouldn't we just sneak up there and do it when they wouldn't know? Why would we pick times they know we were there to steal? I don't have a thief mentality but I would think that is how it would work!
I am very upset over this. My husband's mother admits she made a mistake but the damage is done. My son doesn't know anything about this and I think we have to tell him this weekend when he is home from college so he knows why his cousins may be giving him the cold shoulder. Any suggestions from anyone on how to handle this? I've put up with years of craziness from my MIL. When we first married and lived near them she would call and ask if I had taken her phone book or her broom! Is this some kind of chemical imbalance that makes people call "thief" whenever they can't find something? I'd appreciate any ideas on how to handle this. We don't want to lose our family but can't put up with this.