Father wont go to wedding...
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|Fri, 08-29-2003 - 9:54am|
we changed it to April 3, 2004, so we would be engaged a full year, trying to please him once again......yet he is still insisting that he will have nothing to do with my wedding, financially, nor will he attend my wedding, so i get to walk myself down the isle in front of everyone, who's going to look like an ass here?
a few friends came to my house the other day, we live next door to my parents, and i keep my dress at their house in a spare room so that fiance wont be tempted to search it out and look at it, well i took them over to my parents house to look at the dress, my father didnt knowit was there yet, he followed us to the back room, (being nosey i guess) when he saw the dress he was like "what's that"..."my wedding dress" "what for, who's going to be there?"....in other words, he disrespected me in front of my friends, saying he's not going to my wedding, without actually using the words...............my best friend stayed there an hour after i left talking to him, when she came to my house she was in tears, he didnt say anything harsh to her, but she and I are so close, we grew up together, that it really hurt to hear the words come from his mouth, he told her the same thing that i had been telling her the whole time, she just said it sounded different coming from his mouth.
i really dont know what to do, worse yet, i work with him everyday, so even after my wedding and my honeymoon, im going to have to come back to work and face him every day, or should i say he's going to have to face me everyday knowing he didnt go to my wedding, and the rest of my working days will be awkward.......................i am his only child, i thought he would be happy that i finally found someone that makes me happy....but of course not..........he made it clear to my mom that there is nothing i can do to make him come to my wedding, so i give up, i dont even talk about it around him, because im tired of the sarcastic remarks, sick of him telling me that im being stupid, and ruining my life.
sorry that this post is so long, i have actually cried myself to sleep over this, and fiance gets mad that he is doing this to me, i guess i just need to pretend around fiance that it doesnt bother me anymore, so that it wont cause him to have a bad relationship with my father, i just dont understand why my father is being like this, he acts all friendly towards fiance to his face, especially when fiance is helping him work around the house, but the minute he is away from him, my father always has something negative to say, my fiance has tried so many ways to make my dad like him, but finally we gave up.
im just at a loss, dont know what to do anymore..........sorry to bug you guys with this, but just had to get it out.