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|Sat, 11-08-2003 - 11:04am|
What puzzles me the most is why my MIL bends over backwards for this BIL who sponges off of her and abuses her. My BIL is a loser. Very needy and always gets himself in trouble. And my MIL is always behind him 200%!!! So, what happens? My BIL doesn't learn a thing and keeps getting himself and trouble while my MIL is always there to pick up his mess.
At first I thought that MIl probaly just feels sorry for my BIL. But you know what? I've known them for more than 5 years and my MIL even seems to brag about my BIL - even though there's nothing to brag about.
For example, BIL and then-gf accidentally got pregnant 3 months after they met. Being from an Irish Catholic family (and to save face), they got married. You would think that they'd learn their lesson after that. Instead, after the baby was born, BIL and wife would always dump off the baby at my inlaws' and go on dates and vacation. Meanwhile, MIL would also drive 3 hours each way (and leave my FIL) to go to BIL's house to babysit. Then, they have a 2nd baby. You think, they'd stop the dating the vacations? NO! Same story. MIL would even brag that BIL and wife are leaving their babies behind to go on vacation. I mean, what is there to be proud of? Truly, it is sickening. But, everytime you hope that having babies would knock some sense into them, they seem to get even more stupider. 2nd baby isn't even 1 year old, and BIL and wife announces that they are pregnant again. MIL cheers!!!
What the heck am I missing here? Here I am, my hubby and I still childless (by choice) for 3 years. We want to enjoy our marriage first before we have kids. More importantly, we want to be prepared as much as we can before we have a baby. Meanwhile, these people are having kids even though they obviously don't want to have them as they always dump of their kids to other people so they can go on vacations. And my MIL cheers for them??!! Is it me??
Oh, and by the way, my MIL also has picture of BIL and family's pictures peppered all over her house. Meanwhile she hardly has any of her other childen (and grandchildren's) pictures up.
Why is MIL so blind??