feedback please regarding excluded from Easter

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-10-2002
feedback please regarding excluded from Easter
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Fri, 04-15-2011 - 1:55pm

Hi,

thanks for your previous comments.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2009
Sat, 04-16-2011 - 4:13am
I think your note is just fine... but why aren't you picking up the telephone and talking to him in person?

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-10-2002
Sat, 04-16-2011 - 10:06pm
Thanks for your feedback. I can express myself in writing better when I have strong feelings about something. Within five minutes after i sent the e-mail to him, he called me. He did not really clarify the lack of communication to me about family Easter plans. I'm glad I said something to him and also let him know how much I would like to have all the kids together for a holiday.

IN the end, even though he said, I'm welcome, the funeral will be that weekend and his house will now be full of his stepmom's out of town relatives for the funeral. They will stay for Easter, so I won't be going over there. It is no no longer just my kids and grandkids getting together.

thank you and everyone for your feedback and support.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-16-2008
Sun, 04-17-2011 - 11:34am

If I missed something, let me know, but I'm wondering why you can't be there for Easter, even if it is the stepmom's out of town relatives?

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Community Leader
Registered: 06-06-2001
Tue, 04-19-2011 - 12:29pm
I think you are being hypocritical if you don't go. In the note you say that holidays are special times to be with family, but then when more of his family is coming, you want to bow out.
Can't you show support for his whole family and thus show your love for him in going rather than being upset that you don't get your dedicated time with "just my kids and grandkids?"

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iVillage Member
Registered: 07-10-2002
Thu, 04-21-2011 - 9:57pm

Good point both of you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-10-2002
Thu, 04-21-2011 - 10:17pm

I never thought of it a being hypocritical.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-10-2002
Thu, 04-21-2011 - 10:29pm

The other reason i didn't go, was on Monday he said, "you're welcome but we don't know what we will be doing for Easter because of the funeral.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2009
Thu, 04-21-2011 - 11:04pm
I don't blame you for not going. 30 people staying at one house would be a nightmare for me, lol!

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-10-2002
Fri, 04-22-2011 - 12:30am

Yes, the message I got was, "The only room there would be for you, Mom, is the garage."

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-14-2004
Fri, 04-22-2011 - 2:07am

I think it really has more to do with how formal you and your family are.

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